kav
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Hello All
It was a good day for me!! My stbx came by and we discussed what I wanted from him before the divorce such as support and the 401k split. I got everything I asked for and I got the clubs!!! Now the story here, at least for me, is a good one because this is my payback. I bought my stbx a good set of Nike golf clubs for our anniversary in Feb. He already knew he wanted to be with someone else, three weeks later, we split. Ever since I wanted the golf clubs back a) because they were bought under false pretenses and b) because he really liked them. Anyway, I told him I would fight the divorce as long as I could, if I didn't get the clubs. Since he's waiting for the divorce papers to get signed to move in with the girlfriend, he doesn't want to play around. I guess he's afraid if he moves in with her before that somehow I would screw him. A little justice for Kim :)
Anyway, this made me very happy and I just wanted to share it.
Kim
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SteelersJR1
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If you need someplace to send those clubs, let me know! I didn't get on the course at all this year. Seriously, good news. Anytime you can tighten the screws, it's a good day.
Geoff
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kav
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Maybe I can take up a bidding war on the board for the clubs, what do you think? Ah, the sweet taste of revenge!!!
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passem
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There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.
Josh Billings (1818 - 1885)
Revenge... is like a rolling stone, which, when a man hath forced up a hill, will return upon him with a greater violence, and break those bones whose sinews gave it motion.
Albert Schweitzer
He that studieth revenge keepeth his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.
John Milton
Revenge is a dish best served cold.
Author Unknown
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kav
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Maybe so passem but it feels so good right now.
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SteelersJR1
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I'm gonna have to agree with Kim. Any time right now I hear about something not working for her, my heart leaps for joy! That will change with time, but it's all I got right now.
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passem
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I understand. BTDT. What has been most comfortable has been the past five or so years when I finally achieved indifference.
For so long as I "cared" (and revenge is caring about outcomes) I was still emotionally attached to someone who didn't deserve it.
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AnneB
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And I seem to remember someone posting about the homeless state of their ex-spouse and her loss of child support so if that wasn't enjoying revenge, it sure looked like it. I don't remember anyone on here inquiring as to her wellbeing!
Go ahead and relish the thought of those golf clubs!
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kav
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Anne
I will relish the thought. And I will probably just give the clubs away. Just a little more happiness for me :) It's the last thing I will be able to do to him. He will then go on to live happily after after, at least for a little while. And I'll still be picking up the pieces of my life.
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passem
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that was her status at the end of last year. However, it was not something I revelled in. I found it most unfortunate. The thrust of my post was that it freed my alienated daughters from her grasp and, once out of her direct control and influence, they reinstated their relationships with me which WAS and remains something to revel in, especially after 10 years of nothing.
If that's what you're referring to, I'm HAPPY to report that the ex has moved away, has her first-ever fulltime job and just got her own apartment. She's making it on her own for the first time in her life. That gives our children a great deal of comfort which, in turn, gives me comfort.
Revenge was never an issue and never will be.
Edited to add: I simply can't inmagine wishing ill on someone I was married to for 25 years, whom I first met over 50 years ago and with whom I had five children. Things were bad and she did her best to destroy me during and after the divorce but revenge? Not an option. She didn't succeed and my life's been better ever since.
Gratitude would be more like it.
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Edited by passem (10/18/05 09:54 PM)
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