092895
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Reged: 04/03/08
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Repeat: Run the numbers. It is not just based on one individuals pay. A figure is arrived at and based on the combined income, each parent pays a percent of income for the CS amount. She may be making more, but it doesn't mean you will be paying less if you have had any kind of increase. The total amount of support goes up and the percentage for each parent may change, but that doesn't mean you will pay less.
Hope that makes sense and also do the right thing. It is for the child.
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Cassie23
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Reged: 10/07/05
Posts: 14714
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JL--- As I recall most of the posters told you not to bother considering the issues you have had with him as of late.
You decided to do the 'right thing'--- I think the 'right thing' varies in cases of CS.
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accesskas
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Reged: 08/22/05
Posts: 209
Loc: Missouri
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My husband actually had paid more than he should have, when they figured the CS, he had worked a lot of overtime that year and for the next several years he didn't make near that much and gradually over time he started making with raises and everything the actual amount that was figured in child support, and now after 7 years it is just a bit more, that's why it doesn't seem like there was much of an increase of income. I have a question... everyone says to run the calculator. What calculator??? I have the missouri form 14 but it is CONFUSING... anyone know a better website or does anyone know how to figure it out in a way that could help me?
I agree about doing what is right for the child, it's just hard when she recieves child support from 2 other fathers not including my husband, and with child support almost brings more home than my husband and we have two other children, but I know I can't think about that, you have to think about what is best for the child, but i am thinking of my two boys too. Honestly we can't afford to pay anymore than we are now.... since i don't know any of you personally i will share this with you. My husband pays 644.00 a month for one child. It's extremely difficult on us with two other children to try and support them, so it's hard to know what the right thing is when it comes to CS modification.
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accesskas
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Reged: 08/22/05
Posts: 209
Loc: Missouri
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Another question, i found some child support calculators, but they don't have anything but income amounts, they don't have the credit for the amount of time spent with non-custodial parent, and that appears in the MO form 14.
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JennyLynn
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Reged: 07/14/05
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Cassie - I specifically remember SEVERAL people telling me to do the "right thing" (made a huge 10 page fuss over it, missing the point that I had ALREADY told my caseworker about my increase in income).
When so many things have changed - I can't sleep at night NOT doing the right thing. Not sure how anyone can.
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accesskas
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Reged: 08/22/05
Posts: 209
Loc: Missouri
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well we can set our mind at ease, we are actually paying too much. I just re-did the worksheet and we are overpaying by about 20.00 a month. The reduction would not be there if she was still paying childcare, but since she isn't we are paying too much. She hasn't paid for childcare for a year or two now.
However we are not going to modify for simply 20.00. Yes it adds up, but it will just cause her to get upset and more chaos, so we will most likely leave it as it is. Thanks for all your input, and the worksheet wasn't as hard as I thought it was, but if i hadn't had their old one to compare I would have been in trouble.
For those of you who followed my other post a week or so ago, turns out my husband was given a credit for summer time, so maybe it has evened out with what we have overpaid and what she has had to pay when my husband was supposed to have summer visitation. :-) By the way we are taking summer visitation this year! ;-)
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1966Gal
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Reged: 04/04/08
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Cool. I wouldn't file for a reduction either. My H was also overpaying, but he didn't mind. I really gave him peace of mind...whenever his ex started threatening to have CS reviewed, he knew he was in the clear. Whenever she started asking for the moon, he'd send her the current worksheet/CS calculator and would say "here...as you can see, I'm over paying you by $90 a month...so go ahead and use that extra towards 'xyz.'"
When they see the worksheets and see that you are actually overpaying it really shuts them up quick and they can't use the threat of court to get you to comply with their every whim.
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DeeCan
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Reged: 04/05/08
Posts: 1266
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JL, I'm just going to tell ya like this:
I am a BM and a SM. With DH's CS, we run the numbers before doing anything. If there is an increase, we keep it to ourselves. BM is just as capable of running the numbers and asking for increase. We're not going to hand it to her on a silver platter. We do plenty for SS outside of the CS we pay anyway.
As a BM, I feel the same way. If I run the numbers, it is MY responsiblity to ask for the increase. I don't expect exH to notify me that I'm entitled to one or voluntarily doing it.
To me, that's part of the divorce game. IMO, it's doesn't make my xH a bad guy because he doesn't tell and it doesn't make my DH a meanie because he don't do the legwork for his exW.
There is an old saying that especially applies to divorce: No Good Deed Goes Unpunished.
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accesskas
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Reged: 08/22/05
Posts: 209
Loc: Missouri
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i agree, next time she tries to get my husband to pay for something he doesn't have too, we can know this in the back of our minds in case she tried to do that.
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accesskas
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Reged: 08/22/05
Posts: 209
Loc: Missouri
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I agree deecan, it isn't our responsiblity to do things for her, she is an adult and can easily check herself. It took me about 20 minutes, and she could do the same thing.
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