ssmom79
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We have this issue with BM.
When they divorced, child care was $540 per month. Now it is $180 per month. And like 1966Gal said, when we recalculated the numbers based on EOW (we have 50/50 but it's only verbal) his support only dropped by $50/a month. HARDLY a reason to start a CS war or waste money on an attorney.
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Sherron
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"Oh well all we can do is be the best people and make the best decisions we can now knowing what we know. :-) "
Bingo! And it looks like y'all are well on your way, considering the change of mind on the extended parenting time over the summer. It may be awkward at first to have him there so much, if you're not used to it, so give it a little time. And don't feel like you have to "entertain" the child constantly, a lot of ncp's fall into that little trap, and then the child comes to expect it and will be disappointed when there isn't something "going on" all the time... and, it's hard on the pocket book!!
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JennyLynn
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Thanks Cassie - I suppose I remembered the "do it's" more than the "don't do it's".
And you're right - I think normally the overall answer would have been "do it", but given the circumstances some people said not to.
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marlite
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I thought I posted this last night, but now I don't see it... anyway
this does kind of fall along with the other posts recommendations of "check the numbers, see if it's worth it - decide what you think is right"
Also though, when considering this - check your orders thouroughly and the state laws on wether child "care expenses" are figured independent of child "support".
In our state, the child care costs are figured on the worksheet with support, but are done so separately (support obligation figured first, and then child care obligation added on to make a total obligation). But then that total is paid to the state child support office.
Also, our judge has stated that child "care" costs can (and will) change when the cost itself changes from what is currently ordered and will do so independently of child support... but to change the support obligation the percentage increase/decrease given in the state support laws will be used to see if a change can be made for child SUPPORT only. (Meaning, if your laws are the same... unless the two parents' incomes changed enough to make a significant change in support alone - it may be worth it to ask to modify JUST the child care cost??? But undoubtedly if you are asking for this decrease, mom will ask for a review on support to try to recoup some of the money she figures would not be coming to her due to this change.
(not sure if anyone else mentioned this - but also look to see if your state does automatic reviews every so many years - some do some don't - so IF yours does and you have somehow flown under the radar - asking for this child care expense would probably stir one up. )
Just a few more tips to think about - hope it helps.
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Cassie23
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;) I remember it because was surprised more didn't suggest doing the 'right thing', but given your situation I did understand that.
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accesskas
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sherron i agree about not entertaining him. The hardest part is i will be the one taking care of him for almost the entire day. My husband works from 6am-6pm, so that is what makes it more hard. I am going from having a 3 and 1 year old to also having a 10 year old. It will be an adjustment.
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Relayer
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Run the calculator and if he is paying too much, ask for the reduction. If not, keep your mouth shut..LOL..
Actually, regardless of these calculators or whatever, a judge can order anything he wants..above..below..the guidelines..depends on the situation..
If the calc does bring it down and you get a reduction, bank the $$ for the child. You might need it for the kid later on anyway and if not, it's a nice addition to the college fund..
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