gr8Dad
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...is too much?
Why is it that they even think the MINIMUM EOW is too much, and do what they can to plan crap on the NCP's time and deny it for the STUPIDEST reasons, like they have plans or they kids relatives come into town?
Why do they think they have SOLE control and look for the stupidest reasons to seek a modification, like what the kids eat for dinner or some other moronic reasoning?
Why do CP's think it is okay to move across the country, then think the NCP should have to pay to see the kids?
Cp's, I'll tell ya, what a PITA!
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Cassie23
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We dealt with similar issues regarding BM... It was and has ALWAYS been about control for her- everything is ABOUT HER, there have been few times we she has just considered SD's feelings.
The reason why SD and BM are having problems NOW? Because SD is finally seeing BM for what she truly is and has been...
It was especially bad with BM met her H (before they married), he had a kid too on our weekends that we had SD. Well BM would say SD couldn't come because they wanted to all have 'family time' then after awhile BM switched DH's weekend without asking indefinitely to the other weekend so all their kids were together on one weekend and the other weekend ALL the kids were gone (none of them had the same father)...
I couldn't stand her games, now that SD is older it's been better...but we still have to deal with her crap for at least two more years (till she's 18) unless SD continues to live with her CS does not stop until 21 in NYS.
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RedskinFan
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HAHAHAHA! That was great! I hope SOMEBODY gets a clue!
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cincsu
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Reged: 06/02/05
Posts: 4686
Loc: residence in AZ, case in CA
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in our case the more time BM has with SS the more $$ DH has to pay that goes towards her hair, makeup, clothing, nails, vehicle, etc....
also, she was pissed that DH had no interest in marrying her after she got knocked up and wanted to use her anger to get back at him.
we got into gear...made more money, got better jobs, fought it the whole way and ended up with more than what DH asked for in the first place.
i say it has ended up working out really well for us.
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wife of 1, mother of 2, stepmother of .3475902453
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lovinmykids
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Reged: 01/10/08
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Not all CP's are the same. Just like not all NCP's are the same.
I moved here because my son's dad moved here and he wouldn't meet 1/2 way. He wanted me to drive the whole 5 hours to meet. Now I live 15 minutes from him.
My girl's dad is willing to meet even though I moved away. I drive 2 hours each way to meet him. On Fridays he comes from work and drives almost an hour and on Sundays he comes from home and drives about 1 hour and 20 minutes. There are times that I wait until his weekend to go visit family in his area. When i do we meet about 10 minutes from his home.
I never plan anything on the NCPs time except things for DH and I to do alone. I have never asked for my ex's to miss a weekend do to plans I have with the kids. My son's father makes plans when it's not his weekend and gets my son extra for his plans. My parents know when I do and don't have my kids. they come on my weekends. My son has missed visits with them because his dad has planned things on my weekends.
I have had custody of my girls for over 5 years and have never seeked a modification. I have had custody of my son for 12 years and have never seeked a modification. His dad is now because he has to pay CS and thinks he shouldn't pay $188 for a 12 year old boy. 12 years he paid nothing.
People label to easy and group to easy. I thought sexist and racist attitudes were suppose to be the past. These attitudes are no differant.
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Cassie23
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I agree- I usually try to throw in the word 'some' because I know that not every single CP and not every single NCP are the same. That's why we are all here- on this site- and that's why I see big differences between the CP's on here and the BM in my own situation. It gives me an appreciation for decent parents who love their kids MORE than they hate their ex's.
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JennyLynn
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Yup - it varies for everyone.
In my situation, XH is the NCP and doesn't even exercise the visitation he has (most of it) - never has, probably never will.
CS isn't exactly an issue...as I hardly receive anything w/o having to pull teeth.
I always says "some" and not "all" NCP's are POS's like my X is...b/c I'd like to believe MOST fathers and most NCP's are NOT like my son's father.
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lovinmykids
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Reged: 01/10/08
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---->I always says "some" and not "all" NCP's are POS's like my X is...b/c I'd like to believe MOST fathers and most NCP's are NOT like my son's father.
Exactly! My son's dad is in the running for worse dad of the year. My girls' dad and DH could be in the running for best dad of the year. All 3 are NCPs (Dh is CP at this time) and only 1 is no good. It's not all! just like not all CPs are bad.
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gr8Dad
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Reged: 06/07/04
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...you didn't feel the need to throw a "some" in the post below, when you all were sh!tting on NCP's. But I guess it is okay to fvck with suposed deadbeats, but since there is no societally acceptable term for crappy CP's, we have to be sensitive to their feelings.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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lovinmykids
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Reged: 01/10/08
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There are crappy NCPs and crappy CPs! Depends on the person and not the custody standing. My stepson's mom was a crappy CP and now is a crappy NCP. My son's dad is a crappy NCP. My DH was a great NCP and now is a great CP. I think I'm a good Cp. My girls' dad is a great NCP. Depends on the person!
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