beanstalk
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I've only done it twice Avaya. Again, gender shouldn't make a difference, but it's funny how everyone assumed that the NCP was a male.
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Avaya
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Bonehead - I assumed the 'additional' was In ADDITION to the $475 that the NCP was paying. You didn't say you were matching that amount and THEN paying another 310. Where I live $475 for one kid for one month is about right. $1260 is Unheard of.
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Avaya
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Well, now I'm convinced he is. No man would even care to nitpick posts like you do.
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JennyLynn
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No it shouldn't make a difference - but YOU seem to be the one making an issue out of it.
More often than not - NCP's are men, sucks - but it's just the way it is. Therefor when you refuse to clarify then nitpick when people don't assume correctly...it just makes it annoying. You're the one making an issue out of it.
Regardless of NCP being male or female - NO, it doesn't make a difference.
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JennyLynn
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<<Bonehead...>>
Now now Avaya. That's not very Christian-like of you...
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Relayer
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[quote]I don't really understand your question. All I know is that NCP took a job AFTER the birth of our daughter, that made the pay go from 80K a year to 18K a year. I don't see how that was in the best interest of the child. [/quote]
His contribution to day care enables you to earn money for your share to support your child. What contribtion do you make to him that would enable him to earn money to also make his contribution?
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beanstalk
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Actually there are A LOT of female pilots, it's not as rare as YOU think.
Again, gender should not make a difference.
this is clearly a case of me getting totally screwed over and it's my own fault. I have no one to blame but me (and sort of my lawyer - I was paying him to protect me). Gender doesn't have anything to do with it.
All I know is that I'm doing the best that I can with what I've got to work with. I didn't take less pay after a child was born fully knowing kids are pretty darn expensive. I sacrificed everything. I don't go out but once every few months. I barely eat dinner because I usually can't afford it nor have the time. I buy my clothes at Goodwill. Etc. Because that's what parents do when they have a child. It isn't about 'you' anymore, it's about them until they don't need you anymore or as much.
Thanks for all of your help (all posters).
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beanstalk
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We both contribute. One contributes financially more than the other because one makes way less than what they were making at time of birth. I thought it should be equal, but it isn't. But I guess I'm getting 'something' because there are a lot of single parents that don't even get that - male or female.
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JennyLynn
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At least you're receiving $500 to begin with...she isn't shorting you MUCH. A lot of NCP's don't even do THAT!
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JennyLynn
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Unfortunately it's NEVER equal. You did get screwed as she is making much less than she should be - have you tried having her income imputed at her past wages? How long was she making the higher amount?
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