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Re: Teenager Angst... [Re: rocketgirl]
      #413802 - 06/15/08 07:21 PM

You have literally described...verbatim, a day in the life of one of my 14 year olds...

I mean...just to a tee..

So I would guess that while 2 of them doesn't a majority make...its likely a fairly common event.....

I understand....

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Re: Teenager Angst... [Re: Reilly]
      #413807 - 06/15/08 07:41 PM

Oh, Good Lord... I can't IMAGINE having TWO of these monsters! LOL

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Re: Teenager Angst... [Re: rocketgirl]
      #413809 - 06/15/08 07:45 PM

No....LOL...you can't...

And they aren't bad kids...really they aren't..

I have one that had me worried about being in a "funk"...the other one is just plain lazy...

Unless it is about baseball, football or some other equally agressive "ball" game...they just aren't interested...

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Vodka [Re: rocketgirl]
      #413839 - 06/15/08 10:03 PM

Applied in liberal doses to the mother's digestive system.
That is my only advice really. Raspberry Vodka works best.

Just an observation.... When I was 14 I would have pitched a fit and felt VERY unfairly treated if my younger sister did nothing around the house and it wouldn't matter how much you paid me.

If I were you I would take away a few of OS's chores and give thm to YS. OS will have a few less reasons to complain and YS may develop some independence. It also means when YS is not doing his chores you can tell him off. Right now it probably seems to OS that his brother gets away with EVERYTHING and he has to do EVERYTHING. He is being told to help with chores while his brother is off swimming. Now if your brother is off having fun one would think it means you can have fun as well. Being a teen this means sleeping.

Honey, this is nothing new. Teens are VERY egocentric. The little bunny is right... it is all about them. Your son is learning to separate himself from his family and be on his own. He will fight you every single day for the next 5 years. Welcome to my world.

If you read some books about teen brains it will make sense. Or resort to my standard text... the Zits cartoon. No kidding it a documentary on my life.

And apply the vodka. It helps numb you in all the right places.

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Re: Well, lets look at what happened... [Re: rocketgirl]
      #414054 - 06/16/08 10:54 AM

"I know I need to spend more one on one time with him..."

One on one time "usually" lowers the amount of angst in my OS14 BUT lately he has been refusing to spend anytime w/ me or the family.

He even picks up his plate and eats his dinner in his room. Forcing him to have "quality time" would seem to be counter-productive..

Looks like we are starting back up family counseling for the summer.

You are not alone; I would take the terrible twos over the terrible 14s any day!

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