preemiemom
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Hm... as she said, they don't have any court action currently, nor any coming up at the moment.
Sooo, she's supposed to go get something that's public record and will be public record. So she can keep it in a file in her house in case she MIGHT use it a year, two years, five years, 10 years down the road?
Seems silly to me to waste space keeping duplicate information that I can get readily from a public source.. when or if I need it.
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PrincessJ
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"Public record" here is only available for 7 years, from my understanding. So, after 7 years, its all gone, byebye. I'd get it now, just in case.
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preemiemom
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Ok.. granted. But, these are events that didn't involve the child, so how relevant are they to begin with, if they're not relevant today, how much more relevant are they not going to be in 5 or 6 or 7 years?
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cincsu
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Well if things continue and escalate and involve other children why not have it. What's the harm in being overprepared. Just yesterday was reading an article where a divorce atty suggested to even get copies of warranties on your appliances....everything bc you never kow when or why something you hadn't thought of may become necessary. One never knows and better to spend 30 mins to get it rather than wish you had later
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PrincessJ
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One never knows and better to spend 30 mins to get it rather than wish you had later .
---->So true...
Do you have copies of warranties?
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preemiemom
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I can spend the same 30 minutes when I actually NEED to, rather than creating work for myself now, when I do not.
I'm all about un-complicating life. If it were my ex, and it weren't with my daughter around, then it's not my problem, it's not my business and to have it, essentially, constitutes an invasion of privacy. While it may be public record, the only reason I would know about it b/c we *have* to have a relationship for a child. Otherwise, I wouldn't know. And I wouldn't care.
MTMom doesn't specify HOW she knows about these incidents, but if I recall correctly, she's in a smaller town, and her family is prominent? And they probably know b/c of those circles/connections?
If she didn't have children with him, would she care? Would she get a record of it? Probably not. And it doesn't sound like she's overly concerned with it now?
As for the warranty question PJ just posed. The former owners of my house I own had EVERYTHING. I swear they gave us papers back to 1975 when they bought the house. Everything in neat little folders with labels. Very organized. He's also a JUDGE. Ironic I would buy a house from a judge and get divorced 2 years later. Although it IS a very handy connection to have ;)
I keep stuff. Not nearly that organized, but I do keep it.
But I invariably forget what the hell it is and during clean-up sprees, I throw them out.. only to have it happen that a month or two later I need whatever the hell it was I threw out. It's a terribly vicious cycle, lol but otherwise? I'm a pack rat by nature and if I didn't purge periodically I'd be overrun with crap.
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asurvivor
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Get the report!!!
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greeneyes
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I would get copies. If it is public information, there is nothing sneaky or underhanded about getting and having the info.
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RedskinFan
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I would go ahead and get the reports. If you don't, you will always wonder. Just get them, and get it out of the way. Plus, this lady is crazy, you might need them sooner rather than later.
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Debi
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I personally doubt I would get them but that's not to say you shouldn't. I just know in my state they wouldn't even be allowed to be brought up. Here unless you kill someone and it pretty much has to be your own kids, all of the documentation in the world means nothing.
Even a conviction for a sexual offense involving a minor is not reason to change custody here so unless someone actually beat your kids no one would listen. Things might be different in Montana though.
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