cincsu
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i didn't do anything about what he said...i'm just the SM, remember - not allowed to have a voice.
i was in his room helping him hang posters on his wall along with our babysitter.
and we went through this in march - he doesn't want to tell his mom when i am there because she hates me. he gets in trouble for talking about me and my husband or kissing us goodbye in front of her or showing joy that he is coming with us when she is there. he isn't allowed to express pleasure or love for us....so, i am sure that is why he lied to her. he still never told her he went on a stepmommy/stepson trip....
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Miranda
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Well it is her home and she does pay the phone bill and the kid is 5 and needs some sort of supervision on a phone. My son is six and he is not allowed to run around the house talking on the phone.
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cincsu
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yah thanks miranda! seriously, sometimes he needs help to remind him he's on the phone or he'll just set it down and walk away. but me, the babysitter and he were in his room doing something when it was time to call the mom back.
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Spring
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Wel, he is only five...I'd have him under my watchful eye all the time. She may want to give him some phone privacy tho, if that's the case. He just may not feel comfortable speaking with Mom infront of SM.
I remember SD12 telling me once "I would have waved when I saw you, but I was with Mom."
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Spring
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Now come on, cinsu. You said clearly that you told him 'its not ice to talk badly about people' in you house when BM bad mouthed you. You defended your moral compass...now you're saying that you won't say anything to correct his behavior because of what people here said? Not buying it.
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Arden
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I think this works both ways for this poor kid. No doubt he is also afraid to show love and joy for his mom while around you.
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cincsu
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absolutely not...he tells her he loves her while i am there. not sure where you read into that one. we talk about his mom, and he is allowed to talk about her in our house.....
and to spring - i'm going to let my DH handle it so i'm not the overbearing step mom
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preemiemom
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[quote]Well it is her home and she does pay the phone bill and the kid is 5 and needs some sort of supervision on a phone. My son is six and he is not allowed to run around the house talking on the phone. [/quote]
Hmm... my daughter's 2 1/2 and she talks to her dad on the phone without my inteference, or having to listen to it. She sits on the couch, tells him whatever she's watching. They "watch" Noggin together. I helped her the first time.. but she's an independent little thing and I got "go away" the 2nd time, lol. Now she sits on the couch, holds the phone and I'm usually posting here and not paying a whole lot of attention frankly. When she's done or bored, she yells "Mommmmmm" and that's my cue to take the phone. Her dad and I will talk for a while and sometimes she'll ask for the phone back and the process repeats.
No need for me to be involved, other than to be the holder of the phone.. on demand... lol.
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Spring
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"i'm going to let my DH handle it so i'm not the overbearing step mom"
Perfect! That's what I was hoping for...
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Spring
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My SD12 had the "freedom" to love her Mom infront of me...but could not show affection for me infront of her Mom. It can be one sided. I didn't speak badly about her Mom to her...but her Mom was the opposite. Its started the day I met her...when she went home with a cute little hair do I did for her. Mom got angry that I did her hair (not cut, just put up cute in a little clip) after she had been with us a few days. Really hard on the kid!
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