Runswithscissors
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It's either you've NEVER had a custody battle, or you've lived through 5 or 6
------------------>please find a post where I said I've never had a custody battle. I am interested in your research abilities to find that one.
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KrazyKat
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You have just summed up everything I was saying before and then some!
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If you have a problem, build a bridge and get over it!
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RJ1
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And I think that's why JL "skews" the truth...for example, "he never pays his CS" (when he has made some effort and she's gotten thousands), or how about "he doesn't even take his visitation" (when he does do his weekends just not extended times), or "I'm just trying to help him" (when she's already filed contempt charges on him twice within 6 months and had a replacement Dad lined up). She wants people to believe she's doing everything right, when I truly feel she's in revenge mode and can't see what she's doing. And also, she is well versed on custody/CS issues...but acts like this is all new to her.
She really needs to let some of this go, wait it out, try everything in her power to push son/Father relationship, and hope that one day her ex can see that his son needs him in all ways.
RJ
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Melody
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I don't view that as letting the dickwad win. As long as there is an order in place, then the dickwad doesn't win. SOMEDAY she might be able to collect on it. It may NEVER happen while the child is still a minor....ask katie. BUT at least the dickwad doesn't just get to walk away freely from it. THAT's when the dickwad wins.
But ya never know....being introduced to Mr. Jailhouse just MIGHT be the impetus that some dickwads need to make them set their priorities in order and get a real job and pay their support. Kinda like a reverse carrot.
Edited by Melody (06/26/08 12:48 PM)
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Runswithscissors
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That's my thinking too... what they've done in the past has NOT worked.... so let's try this NOW before it really, really gets out of hand (like Katie's).... maybe it will work... maybe it won't....... but you will know that you've taken every angle and you then can move on.
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MaritimeGuy
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[quote]But ya never know....being introduced to Mr. Jailhouse just MIGHT be the impetus that some dickwads need to make them set their priorities in order and get a real job and pay their support. Kinda like a reverse carrot. [/quote]
Or more like a foward facing carrot coming at him from the reverse end....
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Laineann
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I don't know about all of you, but to me, $6,000.00 is a lot of money. My XH was behind a few times, although he isn't now, anwheres from $100.00 to over $4,000.00. One time, they took part of his tax return, one time they froze his bank accounts, and other times they just garnished extra money from his check. Not one time did I initiate any of it. Heck, we didn't even have to go to court, it was all automatic. I don't initiate court appearances, can't afford the time off from work. When it happened, I was just as surprised as he was. When they froze his bank accounts, they froze all accounts that had his named linked to it, like my daughters savings account. I didn't find out until she got the letter in the mail saying that her account was frozen. She only had $143.00 in it and they took $100.00 off the top just for freezing it(bank fees). I gave it all back to her out of my own money. And before anybody says that it all happened because maybe I was receiving some type of government assistance, I wasn't, and not now and never will. I just wanted to show you all that sometimes things are out of he CP's hands.
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katiefedup
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well how did they know if you never initiate anything?
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Laineann
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All CS payments are garnished and sent to Child support enforcement. They have it all in their records.
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Laineann
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This is NY state. At our initial child support hearing, I had the choice to have CS either garnished or have X pay me directly, I chose garnishment.
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