1966Gal
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BM has begun to email H about SD's college. She's actually being quite reasonable and rational.
She said that she was willing to send SD $75 a month for her "extra" costs. She wanted to know if H had any plans to help her after his CS ended, and wanted to know how he wanted to handle her medical bills after CS ends. Yeah, he could have told her "MYOB", but it's a reasonable question given that she offered her own information first.
She also said that she's talked to SD and SD had agreed to show BM her bank statements and credit card statements each month.
So H said that he thought all of that sounded great...great idea about the credit card statements. Better to know if she's getting into insurrmountable debt before it's too late. He said he'd match the $75 a month and they should still split her medical costs once she gets into school.
He closed his note by saying "since I'm paying your CS until Nov. and SD is leaving for college in August, will your send her that money via paying for her clothes, books, and send her $150 a month. We'll start the $75 each in December?"
Do ya'll think that's reasonable?
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cincsu
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why did he agree to send CS beyond the time period? i would say send CS to mom through july and DH give directly to DSD beginning in aug when she goes to college...when he's done paying "CS" he will reduce the amount he was giving directly to DSD to $75 permonth.
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1966Gal
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He's not allowed to do that. He's court-ordered to pay CS through SD's 19th bday.
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cincsu
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got it...then i would tell her he will contribute what he can to step daughter that $75 sounds fair and he will work it out with step daughter...just keep a caveat on it so that he doesn't guarantee he will pay it under any and all circumstances in case something happens. it is really between him and his daughter at this point and not the mom.
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jil_stevens
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You know, that never made any sense to me. And I live in CO, so have the age 19 rule. ODS wants to join the military when he finishes high school, and he will graduate high school two months after his 18th birthday. So that is 10 months that Ex will be required to support ODS when ODS is in the military and not living at home.
Doesn't seem right. I think when the time comes I will just do the calculations between two and one kid, and put the overage in a bank account for DS. Only seems fair, esp. since he won't be going to college right away.
If YDS has his way, he will be in a military academy, so no college costs or anything, but he will turn 19 three months after graduation, so it is less of a concern.
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That's exactly what I would have done... until child support ends, that is his contribution. If you both choose to help more, fine, but for what I'd put in writing, I'd agree to match what ever she offers.
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TGSM
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Susan,
I wouldn't put it like that. He could just say, "That sounds like a good plan. I will be glad to match that contribution of $75 a month after child support ends in November."
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Avaya
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Or better, IMO, "I'm glad you and SD have agreed to that, it should help her a lot. I'll discuss with SD what I'll be willing to contribute."
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