1966Gal
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I have no idea how a judge would rule, but I think it doesn't matter. If you neglect/abuse one child, you still go to jail, even if you have others.
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cincsu
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in CA it works either way....if the CP gets a raise then CS can be reduced (although usually it isn't) because the NCP is also getting raises. because the CP is usually the mom and usually the lesser earner and the NCP is usually the dad and usually the higher earner then the NCPs raises usually are more of an increase the the CPs raises....so the NCP ends up paying more anyway. at least that's been my experience b/c my DH makes 2.5+ time that of BM. her 3% raise is $1K while his 3% raise is $2.5K etc.
i'm not saying they should auto increase NCPs CS, but if a modification is sought by parent #1 it should be auto-denied until CS is equal for child #1 and child #2. if CP#2 requests a CS mod it should be granted, although based on the normal standard.
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greeneyes
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Your daughter should come first, for you.
But, your DH will have split loyalties - meaning equally between two children. If his daughter gets a free ride through college, his son should as well. You don't punish children for the mistakes of the parent(s).
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greeneyes
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If your DH can't pay for his son's college fund, he then can't pay for his daughter's college fund, right?
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Sadie
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I dont agree, the kids have different parents. Maybe Cincu started saving for her daughters college while she was pregnant. If bm didnt,why should Cincus daughter suffer, or the family have financial issues because her hubby is not only covering his half, but bms as well
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cincsu
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you hit the nail on the head...if we have not enough to cover it all for both in total then daughter will end up with a bigger percentage because i will contribute more for my bio child than my step child...my DH will contribute the same for both of his children.
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greeneyes
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Her husband CHOSE to have another child, knowing that he had existing and future responsibilities. If he couldn't deal with that by balancing both children equally, he shouldn't have had another child.
A solution would be that she pay for their daughter's education and her husband pays for his son's. If he doesn't have the money, his son doesn't go to college.
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Sadie
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Greeneyes, I think what she is saying ( and I know that I am) is say the tuition is 5,000 ( just as example) Cin pays 2500, her hubby pays 2500 ( they are both working and keeping money seperate) for daughter, sons tuition is also 5,000 he pays 2500 to that, bm/child is responsible for the other 2500. Thats fair
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greeneyes
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You said, "without me (or a SM) DH likely won't be able to pay anything for SS's college."
So, then take you out of the equation and he shouldn't be paying anything towards anyone's college.
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greeneyes
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So if BM doesn't have that money, how does son feel when he sees his sister getting a free ride through college but he has to take out a loan?
Dad created this problem by having 2 kids with 2 different moms. I have no empathy for dad.
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