RJ1
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Hey I agree both parents should financially support their children. But...not paying is contempt of court first...it doesn't become criminal (really) until a certain level of nonpayment is met. And I know you'll agree with me...but CPs who violate the visitation agreement are also in contempt...but they never face jail time. There are definite inequalities in our justice system...
There is more importance put on money than there is parenting times...
Hell it's all screwed up isnt' it?
RJ
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M5M5
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It's not dad's fault that BM can not afford her half of college.
I think it's ridiculous that a parent pay for a child's college anyway. He/she is no longer a child and there are TONS of programs they could make use of
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greeneyes
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What if BM has some money but not 1/2 and dad can give more then 1/2. Should dad refuse to give more then 1/2 and, in a sense, punish his son b/c mom can't give exactly 1/2?
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greeneyes
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If dad has access to financial resources and mom does not, I would wonder why dad wouldn't give more then 1/2. Why punish the kid?
I will ignore your usual gender rant. I do not care if this is about mom or dad. I don't think the kid should be punished for the mistakes of a parent, mom or dad.
If/when I have sex, I use protection. Oh, and, I have major infertility issues - my daughter was conceived only b/c I did invitro. My daughter is and will always be my only child.
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M5M5
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I doubt dad would be able to afford more than half since he will also be paying half of his other child. BM should grow some brains and put money back for college. If BM can't afford half, son will have to come up with on his own, I suppose. He can blame mom for that.
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gr8Dad
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...expected to make up for MOM's shortcoming? They are NO LONGER MARRIED!
See, THIS is why I say you are biased. You make NO mention of MOM having to explain why HER ass can't work harder and earn more, NOPE, DADDY should just make up the difference. And even though Dad is giving HALF, and mom is giving LESS than half, it is DAD who would be punishing the child, right, NOT THE MOMMY.
You are TWISTED!
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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greeneyes
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It isn't about mom or dad - it is about helping their son.
I didn't say mom shouldn't explain why she can't provide her portion. She should.
I would hope that a child isn't punished by one parent b/c of the other parents shortcomings or choices. I can't see forcing my child to get a loan for college if her father can't or won't give his share, if I have the money to give.
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greeneyes
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But let's play the what if game.
What if dad does have access to more then 1/2 and mom doesn't have 1/2. Should dad refuse to give more then 1/2 b/c mom can't give her share?
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M5M5
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Yes. He should pay for HALF and no more. If mom can't afford the other half, then the son always has the options of scholarships, grants, etc.
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cincsu
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and from whos point of view does dad have to have this money? from our point of view we can always invest extra for our retirement if there is any or for weddings, houses for the kids, etc. there is always something. even bill gates has responsibilities.
from mom's point of view DH will always be Mr. moneybags because we budget our money and save it....she doesn't save anything and is a huge spender....so, from her point of view she will continue to spend her way through the next 12 years while DH and i work to save money.
so, no, he should pay for 1/2 and no more...even if he can afford it it won't hurt a child to take responsibility for themself.
i worked through college to pay things other than rent and tuition...like phone, food, computer, fun, extras....and when i graduated i bought my mother a brand spanking new honda accord EX to pay back my parents for what they had done for me. i was earning a decent salary and could afford to do it.
so, really what you are saying is give kids a sense of entitlement, and i don't agree with that in the least.
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