greeneyes
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I could never do that to my child. If I have the money, I pay, regardless of what her father can't or won't do.
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Miranda
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I don't know why you are all even arguing this. NO child or children get exactly the same amount of money spent on them over their lifetime. That is stupid to even argue. One may need braces one may not, one may have medical issues, one may not. The biggest problem is when parents keep tabs on who gets what.
My oldest son and step son were born to parent in their early twenties who did not make a lot of money, and I did not have a college education (and in my case college dramtactically increased my earning capability). My youngest son was born to parents who were older and made more money. So guess what? Odds are my 6 year old will have it better than my 14 year old son or my 16 year old SS.
It is no different than my brother, who is 8 years younger than myself, had it better than me. And guess what? I am OK! No love lossed, it is called life people.
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greeneyes
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I don't believe in punishing a child b/c of the choices of the other parent. It has nothing to do with entitlement b/c the child isn't expecting me to pay. I do it b/c I love my child and want to do whatever I can to help that child. That was the way I was raised and that is how I raise my daughter.
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M5M5
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Good for you. And your child will grow up to expect you to pay for everything, and not take responsibility for herself. Kids these days...with parents like you...no wonder they feel they are "entitled".
What works for you, will not work for everyone. Not everyone has the same beliefs as you do. And that is ok.
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katiefedup
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Cin, yesterday you said that the BM only made 30g a year. You went on and described that 30g as unacceptable to you even when you were in college. How do you expect her (BM) to save any money when even you as a college student wouldn't be able to survive on mere pennies?
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greeneyes
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Oh please. Plenty of people who grew up without extras are irresponsible and have entitlement issues.
I do what I do b/c I can and I want to, not b/c my daughter expects me to. She is told no very often.
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Miranda
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[quote]Cin, yesterday you said that the BM only made 30g a year. You went on and described that 30g as unacceptable to you even when you were in college. How do you expect her (BM) to save any money when even you as a college student wouldn't be able to survive on mere pennies? [/quote]
That is not CIn's problem. If you want better then do better.
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cincsu
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she receives plenty more assistance from the three fathers of her three children, katie, and all of the government assistance she steals!
and if she can't save for college for her 3 children....not my problem. i help a lot with my SS now, but won't once he is 18 to the detrmiment of my child.
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greeneyes
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What happens if DH wants to help his child after he is 18?
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cincsu
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then DH can help his child after 18....can you not freaking read? i said if DH has the money to help his child he can contribute to his college.
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