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preemiemom
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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: Maury]
      #419687 - 06/25/08 11:25 PM

Again.. I was referring to it in the context of how other poster's compared it. Not as to how the actual legality of law treats it. They keep comparing it to not paying your Visa bill. I'm merely pointing out how that specific comparison is not valid and where using that comparison leads to an excessively punitive remedy.

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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: preemiemom]
      #419689 - 06/25/08 11:28 PM

I would agree that comparing it to a visa bill would not be similar.

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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: Maury]
      #419690 - 06/25/08 11:35 PM

Thank you.

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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: preemiemom]
      #419692 - 06/25/08 11:40 PM

No thanks needed. I don't have the patience to read 18 pages and catch up. I only read the last few posts.

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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: Maury]
      #419694 - 06/25/08 11:45 PM

LOL.. I think on this one you'd have to read a couple of 18 page threads ;) Long story short.. I'm the lone dissenting view.... but I like being an individual :)

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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: preemiemom]
      #419695 - 06/25/08 11:57 PM

No, I agree with you...having said that, if the CS order is too high, it is on the NCP to seek to have it changed.

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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: katiefedup]
      #419701 - 06/26/08 12:32 AM

i agree, too...he can fit the same standards that everyone else does. i also think the CS order is too high given his income...at least with the arrears. that doesn't mean he can't get a job, pay $50 per month, do something, anything.

he's chosen to do NOTHING all this time, and that is not JLs fault. he needs to take some responsibility and initiative in this situation - he doesn't.

and i don't agree either that JL should take sole custody....he's an idiot for giving it up.

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Nope.... [Re: preemiemom]
      #419705 - 06/26/08 01:31 AM

all you said was that it was hysterical. NOW you've come up with some justification of your put-down. But....my point is still that you base your condemnation on your own situation and NOT how the rest of the country would fare.

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I didn't compare it to any other debt [Re: preemiemom]
      #419707 - 06/26/08 01:33 AM

I compared the fact that punishment is often a deterrent to behavior...and thus is usually effective.

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Re: Then your statement should be qualified [Re: katiefedup]
      #419721 - 06/26/08 06:12 AM

[quote]No, I agree with you...having said that, if the CS order is too high, it is on the NCP to seek to have it changed. [/quote]

True. However, it is not always as easy to modify CS as most would suggest.

We DID try. Things are not the same everywhere, and HERE, the courts do NOT typically grant modifications. It assumes that your setback today, will be balanced by your gain down the road and they don't want to see you back and forth in court adjusting CS up and down. It will all balance out to be fair, in time.

And I have to say.. it's kinda true. While ex's CS would have dropped significantly for x period of time. Here he is now, paying on $48K of income when he makes $55K.

Relative to our case, when I use the example of what he "should" pay for our daughter, the calculation, versus reality, is impossible to meet. Or at least not and have the NCP be able to live.


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