KiwiGirl
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Following on from a couple of other posts, when does CS end in your household... in how many years? Either when does your household stop paying or when does your household stop recieving it?
Me first.... DH's CS lowers in Jan 2010 when OSS turns 19. It stops completely in Dec 2011 when YSS turns 19. The silly thing is OSS graduates highschool next summer. So we will have an additional 7 months to pay once he is out of school just like Susan's Ray.
I don't pay CS nor recieve it. MrX and I cannot see the point sending money across the world when the amount is eaten up by bank fees or lost in the exchange rate every month.
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matilda
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My SO's CS obligation ends in Sept. 2011. CS is to age 18 or graduates high school which ever is first. The state the order is in doesn't require parents to pay for higher education. It's unlikely his child will go to college, but if she does he will have to decide to help or not depending upon her choices and his income.
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KrazyKat
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I stop receiving CS in June 2010
DH should stop paying CS in Sept 2011. (But, That's only if SS graduates in June 2011 like he's supposed to.)
Edited to add: DH's CS child support should end when the child turns 18. (SEPT 2011) However, if a child is 18 and is still in high school, then until the child turns 19 (Sept 2012) or graduates high school (June 2012 if he fails), whichever comes first.
Edited by KrazyKat (06/25/08 08:06 PM)
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jil_stevens
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Mine will drop in April 2012 and then end in August 2014.
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preemiemom
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Ex's for first child will end in 2022, assuming she's in college and not emancipated. If she is.. 2019.
DD, whatever he is contributing would stop at 18. Neither of us believe in this "til 21" business. So 2024.
If we followed the guideline til 21, 2027.
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youngatheart
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Ex pays no child support. But, I do get Social Security for the kids based upon his account.
It will end for DD when she turns 18 (January 2015), which is 4 months before she'll graduate high school. It will end for DS whe he turns 18 (July 2016), which is 10 months before he will graduate high school.
So, basically, I'll be on the hook for the most expensive year of school they'll have.
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M5M5
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DH's CS will end in a little less than 5 years (completely) when SD graduates at 18. It will go down in less than 2 years when SS graduates (he will be almost 19), and then again a year later when SS15 graduates.
I will stop receiving CS (as in current CS, not arrearages) in about 8 years. He will still have to pay the arrearages if he hasn't already though.
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Cassie23
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NYS CS goes until 21 unless the child is deemed emancipated. If SD decided after HS to sit home and do nothing DH still pays CS. If she decides to work PT and that's it DH still pays CS till 21.
I hope NYS changes those laws! SD is 16.5 if the law was till graduation DH would have 2 more years left. With the law being 21, he has 4.5 more years left. Although I do not see SD sticking around in her BM's home till 21.
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preemiemom
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Even if they changed it, it wouldn't affect existing orders would it? The timeframes on the orders are the timeframes, no?
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Husband's youngest turns 18 in September, but who's counting <g>. Gratefully, he's not ordered in CA to pay for college - if the situation were different, we'd help, but no contact for several years but we did get an email after about 4 years from his ex the other day demanding we buy their daughter a new car as she graduated college on the six year plan - nice of her to demand that given she didn't invite dad to graduation and hasn't spoken to him in years.....she'll still get a portion of his military retirement till one of them dies (1/3).
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Redlegg
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Divorce was in may of 04, I started paying in april of 04 and stayed a month ahead, He came to live with me in summer of 04 and I paid until APR of 08. The legal requirement in LA is until 19 or when he graduates whichever comes first.
Yeah, I was a paying NCP, then I was the CP and still paid just to make sure she had a chance to get a fresh start. But its over now.
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Runswithscissors
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CS?? I dnn't get it....
for me, when I had to pay it... it ended at 18.... but then I had to pay for 1/2 of school and costs... just not to the ex but to the school/daughter.
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katiefedup
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CS ended in 1993
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Miranda
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When does is start...is more like it for me.
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Debi
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For OD it will end in 4 years. It doesn't matter because a large portion is going into savings for her (she doesn't know that and won't). I didn't get CS until about a month ago so it's not like putting it in a savings account will be a hardship.
For my 2 middle daughters it's hard to tell. X only pays 32.00 a month now but if he takes it back for CS review I will probably have to pay him since we have 50/50 on paper. (and he hasn't seen them in over 2 years. Nice huh?) Hopefully he is putting some of the money aside that he is not using to support them. 32.00 a month doesn't begin to cover food, clothes and extracurriculars so any money I "could" save for them is being used on them now.
YD, I'll receive CS for the next 17 years. Right now it's all being used on her (and then some definitely) since daycare, diapers and baby food are so expensive. Not to mention all her meds for the ear infections. New clothes she grows out of daily ( I must admit her grandma sends her a lot of things), car seats, and things she needs as she grows, ect....I hope I get to a point where what I receive in CS is more than half of what it takes to support her and I can bank it for her. (meaning the cost of raising her goes down not that there is a CS increase) Right now I definitely spend more than an equal amount of the CS on her.
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cincsu
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My dh will be paying for another 12 years.....and contributing what he can directly to ss after that if he is in college and maintaining decent grades
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lovinmykids
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DH just stopped paying CS since he got custody. BM still pays nothing. If she ever pays, it will end in 16 yrs and 3 monthes. (C will be 18)
My son's dad just started paying and has already stopped. AHH! According to the CO it will stop in 5 years when J turns 18 unless he is still in school. It will continue if J lives with me and goes to college but I doubt that since the college is 1 1/2 hours away.
My girls' dad's cs will be cut in 1/2 in 7 1/2 years when my oldest daughter turns 18. Then it will completely end in 9 yrs and 4 monthes when youngest daughter turns 18. The only CS order is through the divorce. We handle it ouselves basically and always have.
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Tweeby
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[quote]Following on from a couple of other posts, when does CS end in your household... in how many years? Either when does your household stop paying or when does your household stop recieving it? [/quote]
In my State CS is until age 18 but can continue until age 19 if the child is attending an accrediated HS. It can stop if the child is emancapated. I do think there is a provision if the adult child is disabled.
My husband has an order to recive CS. It will stop upon my YSS graduation from HS in 2011 a few months before he turns 19. He doesn't receive any CS now.
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mommynurse
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Honestly, I don't know! I need to read the CO again. If it goes by age, we have 4.5 years left to pay. If it goes until HS graduation, it's 5.5 years. SD13, in the 7th grade, still misses an average of 2 days per week of school. I highly doubt she will EVER graduate.
At any rate, it's going to be interesting. After we are finished paying on SD13, BM has to start paying on SD10. It should be a world of fun to see how consistent she is when the shoe is on the other foot!
I should get CS for another 7-8 years. He has 3 years left to pay on DD15 and would get a decrease at that time. However, he only pays 1/2 of what he's supposed to now, so I don't see a decrease happening for him.
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Tweeby
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[quote]Honestly, I don't know! I need to read the CO again. If it goes by age, we have 4.5 years left to pay. If it goes until HS graduation, it's 5.5 years. SD13, in the 7th grade, still misses an average of 2 days per week of school. I highly doubt she will EVER graduate. [/quote]
Has your husband thought to go for custody of your SD13 due to educational neglect? Missing about 2 days per week is excessive. I don't remember reading about any medical condition that would warrent her missing that many days of school.
It may not be easy but it can be done. Excessive absences from school is educational neglect. I HATE to see any child not get an education.
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KentuckySm
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SO's will drop July 2018, then July 2020, and then end November of 2022. We will continue to provide for the boys. It will be nice not to have to hand the money to BM. At least we will know the boys will get what they need. They already know to come to us about anything involving college. Well at least the two oldest do. The youngest? Well we are still working on the fits and bless his heart trying to get him potty trained. Yep I know.. and he will be 4 in November.
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gr8Dad
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...and with interest and the arrears, I will be collecting till my youngest(who is ten) is 23 or 24.
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BB1
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My daughter's CS ended on her 18th birthday.
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ssmom79
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CS ends for SS when he graduates, which is about June of 2013. Same for SD, except she will be in 2015.
Then it's college. As long as they are in school making good grades, we'll pay for that.
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Ryversmom
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Funny this came up. I was just trying to figure ours out the other day.
DH will receive a decrease once his son now 18 finishes HS which should be 2009. As for CS stopping....that one is questionable. It is written that CS will stop at the age of 18 or until the child finishes HS up to the age of 20, or leaves the home. His daughters have been slacking in school. They both just turned 17 in May. One will be repeating the 9th grade yet again. The other will be repeating the 10th grade. Thoughts are that it will end next May for all of them. I doubt the two girls ever finish school.
SS22 - ended at HS graduation in 2004 (he graduated college this Dec 2008) She helped none and we have loans
SS21 - ended at quiting school in 2004
SS18 - should end in May 2009 age 19 and graduated HS
SD17 - will probably end in May 2009 at age 18
SD17 - will probably end in May 2009 at age 18
(neither of these two plan to attend school past 18 and plan to move out)
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hippie1981
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I had to check my papers on this as I really didn't know. It states that child support will continue until child is 18 or earlier emancipated, or until 19 if pursuing a high school degree or its equivalent. So, from reading that I'd say I will continue to receive CS until DD is 19. That would be December 2021.
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TGSM
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For us it all officially ends Monday June 30th. SS turned 18 the 23rd and graduated the 5th. So there is one last check coming to us and we have decided to spend it on US. LOL We just gave SS a fat check to get started in school. So this one is being used for DH and I to go have a kick ass 4th of July. We are going to the local resort for dinner, dancing and fireworks. I can't wait!
It is such an amazing feeling to know that we are going to be completely done with BM. No more financial ties, no more visitation schedules, no more monthly contact. NADA! Now we can finally move forward with our lives, it is such a liberating feeling.
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Cassie23
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From what DH's lawyer said before if the law changes he can seek that his CO changes because his CO says according to NYS CS laws. There is NO actual time frame.
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PrincessJ
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Oh. Lord...its so far away I haven't bothered to think about it. LOL!
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matart1
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well not soon enough but by calculations - Sept 2009.
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JRS
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DH's will end June 2019 - for both (twins)
CS I receive will lower June 2013 and will end June 2018
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elliesmom
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DH's was to go until the age of 18, graduation from high school, or emancipation (GED, marriage, becoming a parent, or joining the military) whichever occurs first.
At this time, when SS reaches 18 in 2 years DH's should go up, however, BM is also supposed to (under IA law) pay for 1/3 of the customary college expenses associated with attending an in-state public university. I wuld hazard a guess she can't afford anything close to that. So as long as she doesn't start raising a ruckus to get an increase we won't either. IF SD is living with BM there is no way in h3ll she'll be going to college so DH's CS will end no later than about 5 years from now.
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LeAnne
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I stopped being able to collect in 2003. At the rate the ex is paying the past due, I will be 60, in 16 more years when he is done paying.
H's first case was over in 2006, had to keep paying until 19, when both of them dropped out at 16, one had a baby at 16. So I guess we paid for diapers and formula for a grandbaby.
With SS that lives with us, well we don't get a dime. With his grades, college?, don't quite think that is going to happen. We have been looking at JOB CORPS as an option. They will take him at 16, this DEC. So if he keeps pulling crap, he might be going? At least there, they will teach him a trade so he will be able to get more than a min. wage job, graduate, or get his GED.
If he straightens up, then H has plans for him to go into the military, SS has been talking about the military too.
This is the first time in alot of years, that we have no kids to support, it will only be for 2 1/2 months, while SS is at Bm's for the summer, but it is sure nice not having to spend any money, but for H and I. It is amazing, just in the milk savings, instead of 7 gallons a week, we only use 1.
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DeeCan
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DH will stop paying in May 2012. SS will have turned 18 the previous December.
But just as with my children who are residing in this home, we will contribute what we can, within reason, as long as they are pursuing a secondary education. (And, truth be known, even if they don't seek higher education, as long as they are really trying but just need a little help here and there, we will help.)
CS on my oldest ends in May 2010. CS on my middle son will end in May 2014. Both will have turned 18 in the previous February and March respectively.
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Ryversmom
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Leanne - How does the Job Corps thing work. I think that is something that DH should look into for his daughters...Just to get them a trade or something before they head out into the real world. No HS education is going to hurt them more than they realize.
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Stirling
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My CS ended last Saturday (June 21st) when my youngest child graduated high school. I went to the graduation which should have been a wonderful experience for my child, but it was spoiled when two hours before the graduation ceremony my ex told our children that she was selling her condo and moving and our children were not going with her.
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arvm
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For me CO#1 says till the kids are 18 or out of high school (D is a late fall baby so she didn't make the school cut-off) 5years it'll drop, 7 years completely done. But I know X#1, he'll try to weasle out of it early. I don't know if I'll pursue it, I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.
C0#2 summer of 2023 (good Lord I'll be over 50 *gasp*) unless there's a SO adoption at some point. Who knows what will happen with this BF. Its a crap shoot.
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