TGSM
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I have been wrestling with a question and maybe you guys can help me out. When we got the CS check almost two weeks ago, there was a letter from BM attached. Very short, but she wanted to thank us for saving the seats at SS's graduation. She realized that if we had not, they would have been standing in the back. She also actually APOLOGIZED (I know freaky huh?), she apologized for not introducing her husband to me. She actually said, "Tell Shannon I am sorry." I just about fell out of my chair you guys...first time ever she has done something like this (apologize to either one of us.)
So I have been thinking about what to do. Should I answer her and thank her for the apology? Should I just ignore it and let it go? I mean we are done have to "pretend" to be nice to each for the sake of the kids. However, I was raised with manners and my instinct tells me I should respond appropriately?
For those who don't know the history, BM and I have never liked each other. She for the most part has pretended I don't exist. Anyhoo, if you want more info, let me know.
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JennyLynn
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I'd respond, just a simple thank you for taking time to apologize, something short and simple. I don't think you'd be wrong for NOT responding, just if I were in your shoes, I'd take the time to respond.
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elliesmom
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If you weren't offended (and it sounds like you weren't) then I would simply have your DH reply that they are welcome for the seats, your SS was thrilled to have them there and you were glad they could make the trip, and that you (shan) will surely meet her husband the next time everyone is together for something for the kids - here's hoping its SS's COLLEGE graduation. :)
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Spring
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If it will bother your conscience to not reply, then a short note sounds good.
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rschiller
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I like what ellies mom said. I would do it myself though. Focus on the "good". The fact that she thanked you for the seats and such. Tell her you will meet her hubby later.
Fences can be mended. The X's wife and I are really on fairly decent terms now. Perhaps she is trying to open the door for you two. Probably not to be best of friends or anything, but it sounds like she's reaching out to you specifically.
Did you move? I've been trying to read to catch up. I've been wondering how you and your hubby were doing with your health issues and such. I've missed reading, but I've been so terribly busy.
Give me a little update if you can, I would love to hear it.
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Avaya
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I would not respond. I'd be gracious when you see her next and that's it.
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BB1
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Nah, I wouldn't respond. She sent YOU a thank you note. I don't think you need to respond to a thank you note with a thank you note, kwim?
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inloveagain
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Pardon me for interupting. What is BM? I'm having trouble dicypering all these codes ppl are using sometimes.
Sorry to interupt again.
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Tweeby
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BM is bio-mom. Just look at the context at what is being said.
D= Daughter
DD= Darling daughter
SDD= Step darling daugher
S= Son
DS= Darling son
SS or SDS Stepson
DH can be darling husband or damn husband depending on usage.
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BB1
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DH can be darling husband or damn husband depending on usage.
-----------After all these years, I thought you all were referring to your hubbys (DH) as dickhead. LOL
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It's a dog-eat-dog world, and I'm wearing Milk Bone underwear.
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