katiefedup
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Now if the ex H had 1/2 a brain he would be back in court asking for more visitation to include holidays and what not. Just a while ago JL said if she got 100% custody she wouldn't ask for CS...why the change? The only looser in this whole mess is the little boy. Id it 100% physical and legal? If it is both the JL doesn't even have to let him go EOW
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preemiemom
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That's the STATUS QUO Cassie. THAT is why I get so frustrated with her. It is like that with EVERY issue on here with her. Then she gets her back patted 9 ways to Sunday on how she's "doing the right thing" and suddenly she's Helen Reddy.. all empowered and ready to stand up to that big bad man.
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JennyLynn
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Exactly - I have my reasons for ending it on Sunday evenings.
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cincsu
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sounds like a good deal to me if all the parents are happy....he got a huge reduction in CS which may now be able to allow him to not live with his mother. it doesn't sound like from what you've said he's really losing anything with your son since he never participated anyway. now you have it in writing you can do what you want. he may regret it one day, but as you said he didn't have to sign the papers. he could have agreed to go to jail or begun his new job months ago to pay something.
the only question i have is for how long the $300 per month for CS will be in effect? what if he goes out in 6 months and gets a job paying $45k per year and you are struggling. what would happen then? can you ask for more? do you have to go back to joint legal custody, etc etc?
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JennyLynn
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Cassie - btw...this was in my OP the other day, when I was looking for opinions, on WWYD, not whether or not I was questioning myself about what was "right"
<<I want to do what's right - all I want is for my son to be happy, and to do the best I can for him. I've prayed a lot about this, and I think I do know what I'm going to offer, and I'm looking for any advice or opinions regarding it. Of course, in the end, I will do what I feel is best for my son and for my situation, but any input is greatly appreciated.>>
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Spring
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Awesome JL...exactly what I was getting at :-)
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cincsu
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sounds like a good deal to me if all the parents are happy....he got a huge reduction in CS which may now be able to allow him to not live with his mother. it doesn't sound like from what you've said he's really losing anything with your son since he never participated anyway. now you have it in writing you can do what you want. he may regret it one day, but as you said he didn't have to sign the papers. he could have agreed to go to jail or begun his new job months ago to pay something.
the only question i have is for how long the $300 per month for CS will be in effect? what if he goes out in 6 months and gets a job paying $45k per year and you are struggling. what would happen then? can you ask for more? do you have to go back to joint legal custody, etc etc?
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JennyLynn
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Cincsu - it will be in effect for one year, or more, one year or until after taht when I modify. It states in our agreement it will be no less than one year.
No, we will not have to go back to joint legal for him to start paying the state ordered amount. Nor will the amount matter regarding if it was sole vs. joint, b/c his overnights even currently even close to the cut off where the support goes down .
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katiefedup
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"all I want is for my son to be happy, and to do the best I can for him."
Did today accomplish that goal? I think you need to be a bit more honest with yourself. I would completely understand if you said , hey I want to be happy and this is how I might be able to do it. Instead, you mask it as making your child happy....ummmmm Unless your son is odd, I don't know many 3 year old boys that would be happy to see their father less.
Edited by katiefedup (06/26/08 04:53 PM)
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cincsu
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i guess the point is if he couldn't pay now then he won't be able to pay then...even after 1 year. this is not going to be the end of this one.
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