jaiye
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Oh I see. You not only wanted the move but want to be able to keep all the CS too. I hate to break it to you but when or if you do move you and you do manage to keep primany residence for your kids you will most likely find yourself paying for all of the expenses that your EX will accrue to travel back and forth for his parenting time which I am sure that was the reason he wanted a reduction of CS.
We rarely end up keeping and eating our cake at the same time. Sounds like you want your EX to just roll over and play dead for you. You think the only reason he doesn't want you to move is so he doesn't pay child support but what does it say about you and new hubby that you aren't willing to concede anything on the point of child support in order to make a home with this WONDERFUL new husband.. Sounds greedy to me.
You simply can't have it both ways.
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lilmama2
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That is not what the GAL suggested in his report. He said we should share expenses of traveling.
By the way, since when should fathers stop supporting their children?
OMG! You people really don't know anything do you?
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greeneyes
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I have an ex who puts his needs/desires above our child. Especially when it comes to his romantic life.
From what you have posted, you sound a lot like my ex.
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motorboater
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Another thing I would like to add is that during mediation their father did come to an agreement with me for me to move with the kids. His only stipulation happened to be to reduce his Child support to nearly nothing. So it is not that he is purely opposing it for fear of staying close to his kids.
You know what I don't like about this? Because if he opposes the move, you claim he doesn't have the kids' interests in mind. And if he encourages the move, its proof that he doesn't want to stay close to his kids.
Can't win, in your estimation of him.
What exactly could he do without providing "proof" to you that he's not in it for his kids?
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greeneyes
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Why should your ex pay travel expenses when you are the one choosing to move?
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lilmama2
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I was willing to reduce the child support to cover transportation costs. He was the one who wanted it reduced beyond that.
He even told me that I was not willing to compromise on what was really important.....money. Even though I was willing to reduce the child support to cover transportation. Don't judge when you don't know the exact amount.
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lilmama2
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If he encouraged the move it wouldn't be "proof" to me that he doesn't want to stay close to his kids.
Like I said, we did have agreement all set up in mediation that we were both happy with. He cornered me afterwards and came out with it being about the money.
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motorboater
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Okay, so although he initially agreed to the move in mediation, you believe he does want to still be with his kids as much as he is today, right? AND he wants to not pay more transportation costs due to your move. AND while he's at it, reduce CS $. Right?
Just trying to assess what's going on here before gracing you with any further opinions :-)
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lilmama2
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He want to be with his kids as much as before. We had the same arrangement in place with every other weekend plus over half the summer. He wanted me to cover transportation costs, which I was willing to do, plus he wanted it lowered beyond that.
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greeneyes
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Maybe when he thought about it, he realized it wasn't what he really wanted. Do you blame him for not wanting the kids to be further away? How would you feel if he had primary custody and he moved the kids away from you??
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