lilmama2
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No, its not "well maybe when he thought about it", because he just reiterated it to me last week.
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motorboater
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So then you're saying that your fine with tweaking the parenting plan so that he doesn't lose out on time (because it does sound like six extra hours in the car every visit)?...Give him an extra day or two every month or something like that to make up for his "lost" parenting time.
And if you renegotiate CS $ more in his favor, he won't oppose the move, you'll get exactly what you want, and you'll be with your new wonderful husband who can easily cover the loss of CS $ with his great job?
So all this consternation is about how to not take a dent to your pocketbook that, truth be told, you can afford?
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greeneyes
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"he just reiterated it to me last week"
**Huh?
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lilmama2
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Yes, I am fine with tweaking his visitation. I was willing to let him have the kids 3/4 of the summer.
No, I cannot afford it that much. And, besides, they are his kids, so shouldn't he want to support them a little? Yes, my husband makes a decent living, but I guarantee my ex makes more than that.
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lilmama2
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He just told me that again last week. That it was all about money.
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greeneyes
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Has he not been supporting them in the past?
What benefits do you think your kids get out of this move?
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greeneyes
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For him it is about money and for you it is about your need not to be alone. Why is his reasoning worse then yours?
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motorboater
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Yes, I am fine with tweaking his visitation. I was willing to let him have the kids 3/4 of the summer.
Then you should play that card and you can likely avoid any opposition to your move.
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No, I cannot afford it that much. And, besides, they are his kids, so shouldn't he want to support them a little? Yes, my husband makes a decent living, but I guarantee my ex makes more than that.
Well, I'm skeptical. But okay, benefit of the doubt. It sounds like you have a choice between "teaching the ex a lesson about support" and "getting what you want." I know what I'd choose.
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lilmama2
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Yes, he has been supporting them in the past. It is automatically taken out of his check.
The benefits are that our kids would get to have their own room in their own home, which neither one of us can afford on our own here, living in apartments. A two-parent family with a caring father figure. And an example of how to make a marriage work...something my daughter can't even remember, since it was five years ago that we were divorced. Plus, there are more hospitals in there area where I would be able to find work. And....at the same time they still see their dad as much as before, if not more in the summer.
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greeneyes
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Uh, lots of people live in apartments and turn out just fine. Do they not have a caring father figure with their biological father? You have no idea if this marriage will work - then what are your children left with?? Wouldn't they be spending more time in a car to see their father?
You can't seem to admit this has nothing to do with your children - it is all about you and your needs/wants.
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