1234km
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A TRO was placed on my ex 2 weeks ago and she was prevented from taking my dd back with her, out of state.
I was at the hearing for that issue today with my lawyer. We were sitting in the court room and my ex walks in.
My lawyer looks at her ans asks her if her attorney would be there. She said no. Something else was said between them and he looked at me and said "I will be right back I am going to talk with her".
After like 15 minuted I was starting to get pissed. He came out to get me finally and brought me in only to try to preach to us both about being good parents, not bringing kids into adult disputes, yada, yada, yada. After some preaching I reminded him who he worked for and wanted to know what in the hell was going on? My lawyer told me that he was trying to mediate this since my ex didn't have a lawyer. He told me right in front of ex that he thought it would be in my best interest to let dd go with ex for 2 weeks until they moved here. ??????What the he!! did I just hear?????? I told him that there would be no coming to an agreement and thats why he was here for me. The he said "well then tell me why you don't think dd should go with her?" I told him that #1 nobody ahd a job where they lived #2 ex never does what she says she does, who knows if they will actually will move out here if they have dd #3 no food
#4 the whole point to this was so that dd didn't have to be subjected to another move. I can't believe that I had to remind my lawyer why we were doing what we were doing.
So I told my lawyer he was way out of line and he needed to remember that he worked for me. After my ex walked out of the room I told my lawyer that she just manipulated him the exact same way she does to everyone else. I still don't know what happened in there before I came in, but I suspect that she told him some crummy things about me and that she wanted dd to come home with her and why that was the better idea, and of course he bought it!!
Is there anything I can do about this? Am I blowing it out of proportion? Wasn't that unethical of him to do?
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finz
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Wow.....I'd be pissed too !
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momus2
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I'd rethink my choice of lawyer--you are the one who is paying him, not her.
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1234km
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oh, I've fired his a$$!!
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stuckinarut
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good for you (clapping)!
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Relayer
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[quote]A TRO was placed on my ex 2 weeks ago and she was prevented from taking my dd back with her, out of state.
I was at the hearing for that issue today with my lawyer. We were sitting in the court room and my ex walks in.
My lawyer looks at her ans asks her if her attorney would be there. She said no. Something else was said between them and he looked at me and said "I will be right back I am going to talk with her".
After like 15 minuted I was starting to get pissed. He came out to get me finally and brought me in only to try to preach to us both about being good parents, not bringing kids into adult disputes, yada, yada, yada. After some preaching I reminded him who he worked for and wanted to know what in the hell was going on? My lawyer told me that he was trying to mediate this since my ex didn't have a lawyer. He told me right in front of ex that he thought it would be in my best interest to let dd go with ex for 2 weeks until they moved here. ??????What the he!! did I just hear?????? I told him that there would be no coming to an agreement and thats why he was here for me. The he said "well then tell me why you don't think dd should go with her?" I told him that #1 nobody ahd a job where they lived #2 ex never does what she says she does, who knows if they will actually will move out here if they have dd #3 no food
#4 the whole point to this was so that dd didn't have to be subjected to another move. I can't believe that I had to remind my lawyer why we were doing what we were doing.
So I told my lawyer he was way out of line and he needed to remember that he worked for me. After my ex walked out of the room I told my lawyer that she just manipulated him the exact same way she does to everyone else. I still don't know what happened in there before I came in, but I suspect that she told him some crummy things about me and that she wanted dd to come home with her and why that was the better idea, and of course he bought it!!
Is there anything I can do about this? Am I blowing it out of proportion? Wasn't that unethical of him to do? [/quote]
It looks like she decided to go pro se and then it's his job to talk to her.
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Maury
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It was not unethical, but it was poorly handled. Courts usually equire the parties to discuss settlement before a hearing. However, making statements jointly withthe parties that did not reflect your views was a poor choice.
You may wish to change attorneys and find one that is not so conciliatory if that is your view of the case.
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]It was not unethical, but it was poorly handled. Courts usually equire the parties to discuss settlement before a hearing. However, making statements jointly withthe parties that did not reflect your views was a poor choice.
You may wish to change attorneys and find one that is not so conciliatory if that is your view of the case. [/quote]
Ya, but if the person went pro se, it's the attorney's job to discuss the case with attorney of record. I'm sure you talk to pro se people all the time.
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1234km
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Thankyou, I didn't know that it was his job to talk to her so that helps me. But should I have been present or was that ok for me not to be there?
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Yes_Dad
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If she is pro se it is. You could or didn't have to be there. If you want to, ask him to abide by your wishes but a lot of agreements come to be by the two attorneys talking between each other. It just so happens she's her own attorney now. I spoke to my ex's attorny's many times without the ex being in the room, working out the agreement which he would then present to her (I am and have been pro se for around 8 or 9 years now). He can also talk directly to her on the phone and she can call him, etc. One of the advantages of pro se. (and if you aren't ready to go pro se, there could be a LOT of disadvantages to it too). If she is doing it because she is out of lawyer money, that's not the best reason to go pro se and not the reason I did because I had the money).
Remember, when you cut through all the bull, lawyers are salesman first. Just heavy on "product knowledge" side so a person going pro se needs to have the sales ability. (Lawyers don't like that analogy but its true).
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