jaimecuff
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Hello, I am new to this forum and seeking advice... I have an 8 year old daughter and have been divorced for 4 years. My daughter has always wanted to spend time mainly with myself adn reluctantly adhered to her father's visitation time with no instances for the past 3 years.
Last year, I remarried and subsequently had another child from my second marriage. My daughter absolutlely ADORES her baby brother and has adjusted, or so it seemed, surprisingly well to the changes in her life.
That is up until the last month or so....
All of a sudden, she cries everytime I pick her up from her father's house wnating to go back, and cries everytime she talks with him on the phone wanting to "go stay at Daddy's house." This is breaking my heart. Please Help!!
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Misslisa1017
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How often does she see Dad would be the question here.
I know my kids didn't see their Dad often. And when I would ask them questions, about their Dad, they would always answer me the way they thought I wanted to be answered. (smart kids!!) They know!! Trust me. At a young age they do.
They don't want they parents to be angry or upset.
So while you may have thought that your daughter was only wanting to be with you all that time, she may have been also missing Dad too early on.
I speak from experience with my own kids and now seeing my son and what he's going through with his ex.
Their 2 yr old doesn't spend as much time with Dad as he does with Mom, and he wails when he has to leave Dads. It could be as simple as she gets more undivided attention at Dads too, or that she's now older and feels the difference in the time she is away from Dad too.
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gr8Dad
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...that your BS about her "reluctantly adhered to her father's visitation time with no instances for the past 3 years", which is BLATANT alienation tactics by you, have not managed to take hold, and she is realizing that Daddy is a good guy, and is worth spending time with.
So, what is "breaking my heart", that she wants to see her Daddy, or that your plot failed?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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christine1
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Reged: 04/21/08
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Hi,
Do you think she could just be jealous of the new baby? Having all the attention focused on you and then changed can be a difficult thing for children to get used too.
How much time does she spend with Dad? Do you think allowing her to spend more time will help her through this?
It must be very painful for you.
Take Care,
Christine
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