rizzinstl
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Funny thing nolonger I have told that dude to go f-his self like 4 times last night. He sure is getting a lot of action f-ing himself. Maybe he will leave the children alone that he abused.
He turly is in need of some Medical treament. Like shock treatment to his genitals. He is a boil on the a$$ of society.
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BeckaLeigh
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Well, you could start by not stooping to the game playing. This was a tit for tat situation that backfired in your face. It has nothing to do with domestic violence or abuse, it is to do with the fact that you mess with the X at the kids' expense. One of you need to grow up and be the parent that your kids need. You dealt the cards, now you want to bytch because it didn't go the way you wanted it to. Get over it and move on. Go the legal route, not the petty one.
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sally1234
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You should never have kids in the middle of situations like this?
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FRFather
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Beware: This is a known femin azi.
Therefore, whatever she states should be regarded with caution and suspect due to her repeated lies, misinformation and posts in multiple names along with just being an "icky" type subhuman.
Home Sweet Home: Feminist Domestic Violence Fallacies
November 20, 2004
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by Richard L. Davis
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Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness. - James Thurber
It’s generally thought that the home is a more dangerous place for women than men. This myth is what fundamental feminists want us to believe. The fact is that our homes and neighborhoods can be a dangerous place for both males and females.
The vast majority of homicides are not committed by strangers. The majority of homicide offenders and victims are intimate/family members or acquaintances. The FBI Supplemental Homicide Report (SHR) defines intimate/family members as relatives, step-relatives, in-laws, and common law or ex-spouses.
It defines acquaintances as boyfriends, girlfriends, ex-husbands, ex-wives, employee, employer, friend, homosexual relation, neighbor, and other know individuals.
The SRC documents that between 1981 and 2000, 28,586 females were the victims of a family/intimate homicide. During that same period there were 31,509 male victims. From 1981 to 2,000, 120,095 males and 33,088 females were murdered by an acquaintance. During that same time period 49,424 males and 8,518 females were murdered by a stranger. To paraphrase Pogo, we have met the enemy and the enemy is us.
The Bureau of Justice Statistics, Homicide Trends in the United States, documents that females account for 24% of the total number of all homicides victims. Of that 24%, approximately 30% of females are murdered by a husband or intimate partner Thus, female intimate partners who are murdered by their spouse or intimate partner account for approximately 7% of the total number of homicides.
The majority, but certainly not all, domestic violence homicides are committed by people who have histories of criminal behavior, long histories of violent and aberrant behavior inside and out side the family, were physically and/or sexually abused as children and/or suffer from alcohol or substance abuse.
National Institute of Justice data document that in 74% of familial murders, the murderer has a prior criminal record of arrest or conviction. In fact 44% of the victims also had a prior criminal record. A Massachusetts study documents that 91% of chronic domestic violence offenders have a history of criminal behavior. Thus these people constitute a subgroup of the population and are not reflective of the general population.
The people who do not have histories of criminal behavior and commit a smaller number of domestic violence homicides also do not represent the general populace. They often appear to be people who display extreme narcissistic behavior, have alcohol or drug problems, display pathological jealousy, become extremely depressed at the prospect of losing their partner and blame their intimate partners for the loss of their economic standing or professional and personal esteem. In fact, approximately one in every four domestic violence homicides is a murder/suicide.
Between 1976 and 1996, 64% of female intimate partner victims were killed by their husbands, 5% by ex-husbands and 32% by partners/boyfriends. Of male victims, 62% were killed by their wives, 4% by ex-wives and 34% by partners/girlfriends.
This data documents that the home is a more dangerous place for males than females. The fact that the number of male offenders is higher than the number of female offenders does not change that fact.
Approximately one third of family murders involve a female as the murder. In sibling murders they account for 15% and for the murder of parents it is 18%. In spousal murders women represent 41% of the murders. In the murder of their biological children, women account for 55% of the murders.
In fact given this data the argument can be made that given the total number of murders committed by women, the home is more dangerous for men than women and women are more dangerous in the home than are men.
Richard L. Davis
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Richard L. Davis served in the United States Marine Corps from 1960 to 1964. He is a retired lieutenant from the Brockton, Massachusetts police department. He has a graduate degree in criminal justice from Anna Maria College and another in liberal arts from Harvard University. He has a BA from Bridgewater State College in History and he minored in secondary education. He is a member of the International Honor Society of Historians and an instructor of Criminology, Group Violence and Terrorism, Criminal Justice and Domestic Violence at Quincy College in Plymouth, MA. He is a past president of the Community Center for Non-Violence in New Bedford, Massachusetts and the vice president for Family Nonviolence, Inc. http://www.familynonviolence.com/ in Fairhaven, MA. He is an independent consultant for criminal justice agencies concerning policies, procedures, and programs concerning domestic violence. He is the author of Domestic Violence: Facts and Fallacies by Praeger publishers and has written numerous articles for newspapers, journals, and magazines concerning the issue of domestic violence. He has columns concerning domestic violence at http://www.policeone.com/, and http://www.nycop.com/, is a distance learner instructor in Introduction to Criminal Justice and Domestic Violence for the Online Police Academy and has a website at http://www.policewriters.com/. He and Kim Eyer have a domestic violence website The Cop and the Survivor at http://www.rhiannon3.com/cs/. He lives in Plymouth, Massachusetts with his wife and the two youngest of five children. He experienced domestic violence professionally for 21 years as a police officer and personally as a child and as an adult. In his retirement he continues to use his education, experience, and training to help the children, women, and men who have had to endure violence from those who profess to love them. He may be reached at rldavis@post.harvard.edu.
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nolonger
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Go hijack someone else's thread.
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nolonger
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Becka - Perhaps you didn't fully read my topic here. In no way did my X know that my plan was to ask for an answer about where my stuff is before handing over the items for the kids visit with him. There was no agreement or set plan for me to have the kids stuff ready for him at any specific time. When he arrived here without permission, the items simply weren't ready for him yet. Had I been given notice that he was coming over to get those things, I would have made a plan with him for the handing over of the items like we always do.
Everybody needs to stop harping on the "almost" issue of my bad decision that I never went through on and refocus on the original question of:
WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT THE FACT THAT X BROKE COURT ORDER COMING TO MY HOUSE UNANNOUNCED AND
TOLD MY DAUGHTER TO FURTHER BREAK COURT ORDER ON HIS BEHALF BY HAVING HER GO INTO THE HOME WITHOUT PERMISSION??
Stop harping on the wrong topic please! And if you don't have an answer, move on to another topic and piss off someone else!
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GBFather
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You have hijacked this thread, stupid.
You can't resist showing your total ignorance by increasing the number of posts by your constant attacks against the most knowledgeable posters on this site. Y'know, you really are childish.
How old are you? 10?
Beware: This is a known femin azi.
Therefore, whatever she states should be regarded with caution and suspect due to her repeated lies, misinformation and posts in multiple names along with just being an "icky" type subhuman.
False Rape Accusations May Be More Common Than Thought
Tuesday , May 02, 2006
By Wendy McElroy
Is it the new 1-in-4 statistic?
I don't mean the widely-circulated '1-in-4 women will be raped in their lifetime' but a statistic that suggests '1-in-4 accusations of rape are false.'
For a long time, I have been bothered by the elusiveness of figures on the prevalence of false accusations of sexual assault. The crime of 'bearing false witness' is rarely tracked or punished, and the context in which it is usually raised is highly politicized.
Politically correct feminists claim false rape accusations are rare and account for only 2 percent of all reports. Men's rights sites point to research that places the rate as high as 41 percent. These are wildly disparate figures that cannot be reconciled.
This week I stumbled over a passage in a 1996 study published by the U.S. Department of Justice: Convicted by Juries, Exonerated by Science: Case Studies in the Use of DNA Evidence to Establish Innocence After Trial.
The study documents 28 cases which, "with the exception of one young man of limited mental capacity who pleaded guilty," consist of individuals who were convicted by juries and, then, later exonerated by DNA tests.
At the time of release, they had each served an average of 7 years in prison.
The passage that riveted my attention was a quote from Peter Neufeld and Barry C. Scheck, prominent criminal attorneys and co-founders of the Innocence Project that seeks to release those falsely imprisoned.
They stated, "Every year since 1989, in about 25 percent of the sexual assault cases referred to the FBI where results could be obtained, the primary suspect has been excluded by forensic DNA testing. Specifically, FBI officials report that out of roughly 10,000 sexual assault cases since 1989, about 2,000 tests have been inconclusive, about 2,000 tests have excluded the primary suspect, and about 6,000 have "matched" or included the primary suspect."
The authors continued, "these percentages have remained constant for 7 years, and the National Institute of Justice's informal survey of private laboratories reveals a strikingly similar 26 percent exclusion rate."
If the foregoing results can be extrapolated, then the rate of false reports is roughly between 20 (if DNA excludes an accused) to 40 percent (if inconclusive DNA is added). The relatively low estimate of 25 to 26 percent is probably accurate, especially since it is supported by other sources.
Before analyzing the competing figures, however, caveats about the one just mentioned are necessary.
First, the category of 'false accusations' does not distinguish between accusers who lie and those who are honestly mistaken. Nor does it indicate that a rape did not occur, merely that the specific accused is innocent.
Thus, there is a drive by voices for reform, like the Innocence Institute, to improve eyewitness identification techniques within police departments.
For example, the Innocence Institute suggests "Police should use a 'double-blind' photo identification procedure where someone other than the investigator -- who does not know who the suspect is -- constructs photo arrays with non-suspects as fillers to reduce suggestiveness."
Second, even if false accusations are as common as 1-in-4, that means 75 percent of reports are probably accurate and, so, all accusations deserve a thorough and professional investigation.
Third, the 1-in-4 figure has 'fuzzy' aspects that could influence the results. For example, Neufeld and Scheck mention only sexual assault cases that were "referred to the FBI where results could be obtained."
It is not clear what percentage of all reported assaults are represented by those cases. As well, the terms 'rape' and 'sexual assault' are often used interchangeably, especially when comparing studies, and it is not clear that they are always synonyms for each other.
Nevertheless, the FBI data on excluded DNA is as close to hard statistics that I've found on the rate of false accusations of sexual assault.
Where do the other figures come from and why is there reason to doubt them? Let me consider the two statistics that I have encountered most often.
"Two percent of all reports are false."
Several years ago, I tried to track down the origin of this much-cited stat. The first instance I found of the figure was in Susan Brownmiller's book on sexual assault entitled "Against Our Will" (1975). Brownmiller claimed that false accusations in New York City had dropped to 2 percent after police departments began using policewomen to interview alleged victims.
Elsewhere, the two percent figure appears without citation or with only a vague attribution to "FBI" sources. Although the figure shows up in legislation such as the Violence Against Women Act, legal scholar Michelle Anderson of Villanova University Law School reported in 2004, "no study has ever been published which sets forth an evidentiary basis for the two percent false rape complaint thesis."
In short, there is no reason to credit that figure.
"Forty-one percent of all reports are false."
This claim comes from a study conducted by Eugene J. Kanin of Purdue University. Kanin examined 109 rape complaints registered in a Midwestern city from 1978 to 1987.
Of these, 45 were ultimately classified by the police as "false." Also based on police records, Kanin determined that 50 percent of the rapes reported at two major universities were "false."
Although Kanin offers solid research, I would need to see more studies with different populations before accepting the figure of 50 percent as prevalent; to me, the figure seems high.
But even a skeptic like me must credit a DNA exclusion rate of 20 percent that remained constant over several years when conducted by FBI labs. This is especially true when 20 percent more were found to be questionable.
False accusations are not rare. They are common.
Wendy McElroy is the editor of ifeminists.com and a research fellow for The Independent Institute in Oakland, Calif. She is the author and editor of many books and articles, including the new book, "Liberty for Women: Freedom and Feminism in the 21st Century" (Ivan R. Dee/Independent Institute, 2002). She lives with her husband in Canada.
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BeckaLeigh
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As long as there are kids involved, the parents should not intentionally put them in the middle. Or use them as weapons against the other parent. The OP intentionally kept the kids' stuff to get at the X for not giving her stuff that belonged to her, from what I understand. This is totally wrong. The kids should be left out of it as much as possible. This makes about as much sense as when my X kicked me out when our D was about 4 months old but wouldn't let me take the bottles or formula that *I* bought her. Why make the kids pay for our mistakes???
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nolonger
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It is obvious to me why you people are divorced. You focus on the wrong issues even when the issue you ironiously continue to focus on has been adressed by the thread-starter. I have acknowledged the error of my thinking. I agree with the notion that my plan THAT I NEVER ACTED OUT TO THE FULL EXTENT was terribly wrong. I vowed never to think nor act in the manner again.
Done. Move on!!!
I will say this one final time and "no longer" post here...
The question was and still is WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT MY X WHO CONTINUOUSLY BREAKS OUR COURT ORDER?
Now, to the psycho GB father - what does this thread have to do with rape or accusations of rape????
You want to know something? I WAS sexually assaulted by my husband. I never pressed charges. I still, through all this continued abuse HAVE NOT PRESSED CHARGES! Why is it that my simple question must be barraged with continued accusations of falsely charging my abusive x with bullcrap?
I cannot make this stuff up. My life is filled with harassment and verbal and emotional abuse every single week. I do nothing legally about it yet my thread here is filled with people and their issues, not mine!
You got an issue? Start your own darned thread and get outta mine unless you have some help for me!!
Oh yeah, and get a life! I've been going thru a divorce for 6 months and am almost done. Once it's over and I no longer need advice (advice I will cease from seeking from the regulars over here)I will "no longer" need to post here. Yet you all seem to have been divorced for years and still dwell on it.
Seems to me there are some that need to get over it and it ain't me.
Get a life.
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BeckaLeigh
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nolonger, being angry with some people on a website is not going to help you "get over it". Using your children as pawns in a game against your X might make you feel better, but it isn't helping the kids any. You have every right to dislike anyone on here you choose. But, we also have the right to voice our opinions, or did you miss that on the first page?
AS for getting a life, most of us have one. I am very happily remarried to a wonderful man. And if I choose to post in "your thread" about it, I will.
You tried to use the kids possessions against your X and it backfired. As it damn well should have. You are angry because people see through your BS and also see that you are willing to risk hurting your kids to get back at your X.
Divorce is never easy. Especially when one or both of the parties play childish games. If you stop those, you will get through it with some hair intact. You can't stop him, but you can control your reaction to him.
I hope you have a wonderful life with very happy children in the near future, along with getting your belongings back from your X. I don't wish ill to anyone, I just wish people would stop screaming abuse so darn much. I was abused in every way possible by my x. I chose to press charges eventually, because it was the only thing left to do. If you choose not to do anything about it, you might as well send him an email telling him to keep on keeping on.
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