missactress
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Okay so heres the general idea... My dad has raised me my whole life, he is possibly the most loving and special dad I could have gotten. Unfortunately over the years he has gotten run down and less and less satisfied with the idea of living. He's told me before that hes thought of suicide and that the only reason he is alive is me, and that he feels trapped and hopeless... why? My mother.
She is an infuriating woman. Satan. She is actually really nice to everyone she meets and pretends to put on this front of healthy/ positive/ caring/ loving mom.
She has literally done nothing for me me whole life to raise me. She sets a horrible example and I am certainly scared for life from her.
Did I mention she abused me as a child? She still is emotionally abusive. I can honestly say I have never loved her, sad but true.
She works 1 or two days a week, and spends all other times sitting in the den watching TV or complaining about the house we live in.
My dad has paid for everything, the house, the cars, the food. He cooks, cleans, pays the bills, and basically is a one man show. My mom does nothing.
He has supported her and tried to get her to go to school, always encouraged her to do things and she nags on him, and breaks his heart.
She apparently once was really nice to him, but faced a lot of problems around the time they got married.
I am in fact 96% sure she is a lesbian. She was rapped before she married my dad by some other man, never told me dad, but he found out after they were married.
She is not grateful for anything, and doesn't make effort to talk to him. He still tries way to hard for her, takes care of her when shes sick (which is always) and she refuses to even try to do anything.
Anyways my dad is scared of getting divorced because he feels he will loose so much financially.
He is about to retire, and will lose half of his pension to her.
He has a summer cabin on water front property that has been in his family for a long time, well the property, the cabin was built around the time they got married.
He would be willing to part with half the price of the house/ things in the house, but not the cabin and not his pension. Therefore he can't and hasn't divorced her.
I am 20 years old so I do come into any real factor custody wise.
Is there anyway around it? Can I some how bribe her?
The real f'ed up thing is the fact that she clearly doesn't love him, and threatens to take everything on a regular basis, yet doesn't because she has no idea how to support herself because her brain is so incapable. Its rather sad.
If anyone could please give me some suggestion, that would be the world to me!
Send her to jail? Prove shes a lesbian?
Did I mention she gets into major debt and we don't know how, and my dad always bails her out?
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finz
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Send her to jail for what ?
Being gay (but not participating in an affair) doesn't matter.
He has allowed her to stay home and do nothing......this is their status quo on a long term marriage. He will most likely have to pay big time for his mistake of not divorcing her sooner. He has enabled her to be the thing that she has become.
I understand that you love him dearly, but he made a huge mistake in staying married to someone who abused you. He will probably pay dearly for that mistake.
You are an adult, so there is no custody issue. If he wants to keep the waterfront cabin, he can buy her out
Good luck
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Dadof1
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Unfortunatly i know all to well of your situation. My father also consistently gave-gave-gave, and in the end, turned to alcohol after she divorced him, got alimony, and continued never to work another day in her life. Nice way to scare future generations from considering that marriage is a joint effort.
I too feel that your father is a victim of his own good heart, as she will take him for half of nearly everything, and considering she hasn't worked. Will probably go after alimony as well. SAD, but very true. In my fathers situation we have made a joke about it, he's become vindictive now and pays alimony as ordered, and his monthy gym membership a year in advance. Reason being, he says i'm just ensuring that i live longer than her, and that nobody in their right mind would marry that woman again, and when she dies, I will inherit it, and then we will be able to enjoy it together. SAD.. but true
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Dear God, I seem to have a defective life. Could I please get a new one?
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