nolonger
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Reged: 09/15/08
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We had our final divorce trial two days ago. The mediation before the trial included my X cursing out his lawyer, his lawyer calling him an assshole, BOTH lawyers warning him he was about to be held in contempt unless he calm down and all his snide comments and angry antics. The actual trial he behaved angrily and reluctantly agreed to the settlement.
Once the trial was over but all parties still in the court room, including the judge, my X angrily got up and started to yell out commands to me and the lawyers about how he wanted the agreement executed. Both lawyers got on either side of him and insisted he go behind the court area and into the gallery. They told him again to calm down or they'd have to get the bailiff. He never did. He stormed out saying, "You asssholes can keep lining your pockets with MY money!" and paused at the door to smile this twisted, wicked smile at me. X was escorted out of the building by his lawyer. My lawyer insisted I got the better deal by this trial but more so by leaving my marriage.
We have in place police protection for the rest of the division of assets when we have to come into physical contact with one another.
Since the trial ended, I have gotten 17 phone calls and 4 text messages from X. About 1/2 of them are filled with verbal and emotional abuse. ALL of them I consider harassing because we were instructed to ONLY communicate by text or email.
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shortmarriage
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Reged: 12/07/08
Posts: 1773
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Hey nolonger- your ex sounds like a real a$$! When do you go for the rest of the division of the assets? Have you told your attorney about the phone calls & text messages?
I also saw in your other post that your ex is planning activities for the kids when they're with you. He's already not following the divorce decree and you're not even out of court yet? Can you address this with your attorney too?
I'm sorry you're going through all of this. Atleast you're on the tail end of having the divorce wrapped up. But, he's going to continue to be difficult!
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nolonger
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Reged: 09/15/08
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SM, We have an entire file detailing his breaks of the court-order and if the calls continue we will file harassment charges. Yesterday, I thought my phone was not working because it hardly rang. Turns out, X was in an area of no cell service all day. I simply wasn't used to the peace!
Also, the division of assets happens in a few weeks. We have to try to negotiate more on our own (via email) before the cops come to supervise the division.
And YES, it is quite clear that X is keeping his pledge he made while speaking with my father - that his goal is to make every single day of the rest of my life miserable.
Funny thing is, as much as he tries, it only reminds me that while his attempts bother me a lot, it's WAY better than living under the same roof, under his thumb feeling the same way. At least I'm free.
CHEERS to that!
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Buckeye
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Reged: 12/08/05
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Also reminds you of why you are getting a divorce to start with!!!
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nolonger
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Reged: 09/15/08
Posts: 305
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I hadn't heard much from X all weekend. Then today, while I was out snowmobiling, 13 missed calls from his number.
And the first call was made @12:30, the last at 2:50.
WTF?!?!
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Fishergirl
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Reged: 12/06/08
Posts: 469
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Hugs !!! I keep thinking about you now and then and I think our ex's are 2 peas in a pod. My ex said the exact same thing to my dad. Just keep ignoring all his phone calls etc. - dont forget to document them tho. Then move on with your life :)) When I first got divorced everyone told me I was brave for getting out and that over time he would move on and the harrassement would stop. That was 2 years ago. I get crap from my ex all the time still. This last weekend I got a call from him while he had the kids at midnight. I tripped in the dark tryng to get the phone (I always think someone has died if I get a call that late) and now have a huge bruise on my leg :P then yesterday I was going to email him about the upcoming schedule and holiday when I got an email from him agreeing to the schedule then adding a paragraph of him calling me a tramp. Nice. Im just sayin he may never let up but you will become stronger and notice that it affects you less and less. And a huge cheers to living a life free of him !!!
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Buckeye
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Reged: 12/08/05
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The best revenge is to live well and happy without your ex. Bugs the heck out of them.
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stuckinarut
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Reged: 10/12/07
Posts: 1631
Loc: Island of Man
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that works for me!
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"The King of fraud and corruption"
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nolonger
enthusiast
Reged: 09/15/08
Posts: 305
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I go from getting 17 calls, then 13 calls in one day to no communication whatsoever.
Long story short, X called the cops on me and tried to have me arrested for keeping S10 without permission.
Medium story is, X abandond S10 at a basketball game so I took him home.
After 3 attempts to contact X to pick up S10 for the rest of his visitation, he got pissed that I refused to bring him to his house. Then he called the cops.
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rocketgirl
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Posts: 8562
Loc: On the beach in 14 years...
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What a complete moronic @sshole.
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Diplomacy - the art of telling someone to go to hell, and them looking forward to the trip.
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