mrdivorce
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My wife was a stripper in CA when she sent me back to college for 4 years, paid off both our cars and paid 30K down payment of our home in GA. She is now 48 yrs. old, a high school drop out and can't even pass a GED. We have no children and have been married for 11 years. After my graduation, we moved in GA and I landed a good job making 80K. She continued stripping for another year and quit to get her GED but failed. In 2006-2007 she got an office job making 21K but got laid off after 1 yr. and can't fine a job until now. I don't want her being at home and only spending my money.
My question is, can she demand a SS? Me and my sister who visited me here, we both tried to kicked her out of my house but she doesn't want to move out because her reason is that she paid the downpayment and it is her house.
Second question is, She have her own savings account without my name included, if she moves out and use her savings for her expenses can I get 50/50 from the original amount that was in the savings account when my divorce is finalize? Example, her total savings account is 100K by the time the divorce is finalize, the balance is only 20K, can I claim the 50% of the original amount of 100K? Thanks for your advice.
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matart1
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she may be a stripper or was but you are certainly coming off as more uneducated.
you are going to be on the hook for opening your tight wallet now. your wife can also possibly recoup the $30k she plopped down on that fine GA home before the value is split if the arguement is made strongly enough.
welcome to the world of alimony.
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Maury
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Let's see.
(1) She worked and helped you get a degree;
(2) With that degree you gained a decent job earning $80,000 per year;
(3) She is 48 and can not earn much as dancer at this point;
(4) She has limited education and few decent work prospects;
(5) She had a job recently making only $21,000, but was fired;
(6) You have been married 11 years.
That sounds like a strong case for spousal support if I ever heard one
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[quote]Let's see.
(1) She worker and helped you get a degree;
(2) With that degree you gained a decent job;
(3) She is 48 and can not earn much as dancer atthis point;
(4) she has limited education and few decent work prospects;
(5) You have been married 11 years.
That sounds like a strong case for spousal support if I ever heard one [/quote]
And a big one. He has her stripping so he can go to college and now that he graduated and she is getting long in the tooth, especially to be a stripper, he wants to leave her with nothing. Nope..aint going to happen
To OP. Pay her in $1 bills, like she is used to and be prepared to pay her a LOT
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mrdivorce
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The law says, any good samaritan can be sued. Therefore, when she helped me get my degree and so on, it is not my faults. She did it voluntarily during the time when my life was in jeopardy. I had a manic depression, don't like life, I almost killed myself and don't have friends when I met her. She changed all that and help me get through life. Considering she is a good samaritan by rescuing me from my misery but it was voluntary. Therefore, it was her faults. I can choose how I want to live my life. If she doesn't like being scream at everyday when I come home for not getting a job, then she should leave and I should not be responsible for her life when she does leave. She will be force to find a job then. This is just my defends if we ever go to court but will let you know and I can promise you, I will win!
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Maury
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First, good samaritan laws have absolutely nothing to do with anything in this post. That makes no sense.
Second, you have a greater earning capacity because of sacrifices she made during the marriage to her income and career. That means spousal support is possible.
Third, her limited earning capacity and the length of the marriage make spousal support very likely.
Fourth, I would see if you can get back some of that money for your education, because your grammar is terrible.
You don't have much of a defense and, without a lawyer, you certainly have no ability to present one.
(Anyone else getting the impression this is just "Stuckinarut" with a new identity and a new fable?)
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jaiye
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I call TROLL! An uneducated one at that.
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finz
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My guess is it is "Stuck"
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matart1
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this probably is Stuck now that the stupidity of this person is becoming more apparent. Stuck is such a loser he will come up with any post to keep the attention focused on him.
this is why sterilization should be mandatory.
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mrdivorce
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Thanks for your feedback. I maybe considering her offer which is, 30K, my CTSV Cadillac that I just bought for myself and the savings that she has now which she claims was her savings before I met her.
Do you think if I can prove it to the judge that I was mentally ill, got in trouble and went to jail for a couple of months, would help me not paying the SS? Considering that it was an illness that causes me to be unhappy and my wife helped me go through with life and wanted me to live to the fullest, will the judge consider it for me not paying a SS because of my illness? Will my situation be the same as those who have killed another person because of her/his mental illness and this person avoid a life sentence but going to the mental facility instead? If all else....
The law is unfair because she helped me for a total of 5 years before I got this job. After I got my degree, I've worked for the last 6 years so that means we're even. Now that we're even, she should fine a job and makes at least half of what I make regardless of her educational background. She is still fit and healthy I don't see why she can't find a job.
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I don't think you will have a problem proving you are mentally ill, you should go with that.
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mrdivorce
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I told my wife last night that she will not get her SS. She said, in addition to not being educated etc. she will call her friend who is a lawyer in CA who documented a rape incident. This is her defends, when she was working as a stripper, she almost got rape at the parking lot on her way home from the club. She called me in her cel that she needed my help but I scream at her because she disturbed my sleep and I have a final exam the next day. It was like around 3:00 A.M. so she hangs up on me and called the police and a lawyer friend and the incident has been documented. She said the lawyer friend is willing to testify against me. In other incident she said, at one point she did not go to work for 10 days because she got a very bad flu and I never offered her even a cup of soup or checked on her how she was doing. I mean this lady needs some attention why should I do that when I have a lot to study for my degree. Do you think her claim is relevant in this case? Please need your feedback. I really don't want to pay SS because she stopped cooking for me now. All she does is rescuing all these homeless cats and get them fix so they won't breed instead of getting a real life. I want to see her bringing $$$ at home like she did when she was a stripper. That's all I'm asking her.
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Redlegg
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stick with the mental illness, and don't even worry about her. You need to go with something you can prove, and that is the one.
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LMAO!
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mrdivorce
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Thank you for the feedback. I will take my chances on my health issue because people who are murderer and who are incapable to stand a trial because of mental illness, they win, no jail time. In my case there is no SS payment.
However, me and wife was discussing about me not pursuing the divorce. I told her that I will pay the mortgage and the house bills and her car insurance except she needs to pay her own groceries and personal expenses and gas for her car.
Her respond is, if I don't give her allowances for $500 a month, she will go back to her old job as a stripper in the club where my co-workers go to. To me this is to humiliate me. My question is can I file a restraining order for being indecent wife?
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mrdivorce
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I just told my wife on the phone that I will agree to give her allowance of $500/month. She said ok but with two conditions, she will not cook for me and no more sex. She will only clean the house and the yard and sleeps with her cats in the other bedroom. And I told her with the $500/month I must have sex and everything she usually do in the house. What do you think.
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Redlegg
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I am not sure, you want the mental illness defense, how would it be if you said you are incapable of paying spousal support because of mental illness, but you are competent enough to say her trying to work and get money by stripping makes her indecent. I think you should encourage her to work and stick with the mental illness. It just seems at this point, you will be able to prove the illness beyond any doubt. Stop messing with her, and focus on your illness, you should probably try to get some help too, so it is documented.
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mrdivorce
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She did encourage me to get some help which I did and it's been 4 months now that I have been taking a medication to calm my nerve down. If I was not on medication I won't be able to join this forum because I fell miserable all the time. My wife think I have bipolar disease. However, I don't need to encourage her to get a job, she finds jobs but the jobs she found is not good enough. She takes a little higher than minimum wages that is why I asked her to quit so she can focused on finding a better job that pays well that is equal or at least of what I'm making now. I just want fair share that's all and I hope those who reads this, will understand my side. She made a choice to voluntarily helped me out at the beginning and I choose to have equal rights.
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spinnerdegrassi
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Why doesn't she keep on stripping. I'm sure there's a niche market for almost 50 yr old strippers on the circuit
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d2njti
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I'm throwing a birthday party for my Dad's 80th. Can I get her number?
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Maury
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I am now positive this is "Stuckinarut." Same poor grammar. Same way of ignoring responses to post, again, about his narcisistic and fictitious tale.
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Redlegg
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So do you think mental illness is a possibility here???
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javajunkiee
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I didn't know stupidity was considered a mental illness.
Now stripping at 50, that seems a tad sick.
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stuckinarut
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Wrong again Maury!
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spinnerdegrassi
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[quote]I didn't know stupidity was considered a mental illness.
Now stripping at 50, that seems a tad sick. [/quote]
Hey times are tough. If you don't develop any skills you gotta do something to earn the $$$$
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Maury
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Thanks for chiming in stuck, now go play with some broken glass while the adults talk.
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mrdivorce
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[quote]I am now positive this is "Stuckinarut." Same poor grammar. Same way of ignoring responses to post, again, about his narcisistic and fictitious tale. [/quote]
I know my grammar is bad but not that bad otherwise you won't be able to understand what I was talking about here.
About stripping at 50? She may be able to do it with a figure of a teens except she has 36D cap. :confused:
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mrdivorce
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[quote]I'm throwing a birthday party for my Dad's 80th. Can I get her number? [/quote]
Don't be so cruel to your dad, he may get a heart attack and blame it on her.
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mrdivorce
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[quote]I didn't know stupidity was considered a mental illness.
Now stripping at 50, that seems a tad sick. [/quote]
Perhaps you need to go the strip club to find out that a 60 yr old woman can get into that poll.
Here's what I can tell you about her;
She's almost 50, 94lbs, has a body of 20 yr old, 36D, no cellulite, and no fats. She looks like Alicia Keys.
There is no artificial, no proces, not byproduct whatever you call it. it's all natural ingredient!
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mrdivorce
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[quote]I'm throwing a birthday party for my Dad's 80th. Can I get her number? [/quote]
Hey I told my wife about your Dad's 80th Bd party. First thing she asked me if he is a tycoon. If he is, she'll be there in a minutes with her ponytail ready to give papa a lap dance. No phone call needed, just give her his address.
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stuckinarut
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Your mean Maury! :p
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Maury
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"Your" means possession. The word you were struggling for is the conjunction "you're."
The grammar lesson is free of charge.
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stuckinarut
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very good!
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mrdivorce
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Gentlemen, I thank you all for your feedback. However, will no longer divorce my stripper wife. I thought by marrying one of them I get a free ride for as long as I want to, but big mistake. She can't pass the GED, but when it comes to money, she is notorious. She should be in Wall Street to prevent this economic downturn. Divorcing her is expensive, she said if I don't give her what she wanted, she will take all of our assets, denounce her US citizenship and run! I wonder where she goes? Offshore?
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Maury
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"I thought by marrying one of them I get a free ride for as long as I want to . . "
You are truly a dumb arse. You are also Stuckinarut.
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stuckinarut
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Maury - nice try but I only come on here as stuck!
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apples
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This is all a make believe story, very possibly stuck, but none the less, there is no way anyone with this man's grasp of the English language is going to hold down a job that makes that much. No way, no how!
(Unless we are speaking about the drug cartels that are in the news so much these days)
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