overtherainbow
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Reged: 10/23/04
Posts: 268
Loc: New England
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I ran into my husband soon to be ex downtown.We are have been separated since Apirl (he left me) My son spends every other week at each house. I had been helping my teen son shop for an item. My husband announced to my son that he had just picked up their Christmas cards. He had picture
Xmas cards made up of he and my son and is sending them out to all our mutual friends. Of all the mean and low down nasty things to do!! I told him that wasn't fair--if he wanted to send them to his work people fine--people who are not mutual friends--but to send them to old neighbors and friends of both of us and misrepresent that the son is only living with him --I think that is mean thoughtless and deceitful. We have not yet started divorce proceedings but will in January. I think he is being a jerk. What do you think?
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aussie928
old hand
Reged: 10/29/04
Posts: 969
Loc: Dallas
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g'day luv. I think you should do the same thing...cept where he would normally be in the pic..get a large ugly dog and sign the card from the ----- family. No seriously, it is mean and dirty, but dont play his games. I know that is hard but do not let your son become a pawn.
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almostheaven
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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"Don't sweat the petty stuff and don't pet the sweaty stuff" holds true. You'll have much bigger things to worry about in divorcing without worrying whether he might try to "one-up" you at Christmas. Don't focus on it. Smile and nod and promptly forget about it. Besides, don't give him the satisfaction of thinking it got to you or he wins some inward emotional battle. The only way to win that battle is by just being the better/bigger person. ;-)
And definately don't pet the sweaty stuff. If you've been seperated since April, it's hard to tell where he's been.
Ok, little joke there. LOL
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overtherainbow
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Reged: 10/23/04
Posts: 268
Loc: New England
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Bigger things to worry about? Oh yes. My husband, soon to be ex is a divorce attorney.(Lucky me) I am unemployed and have been a homemaker for years (Yes , dumb I know!) . My husband says he is going force sale of the house I am currently living in. My teen son screams and swears at me and is generally very unpleasant to be around right now and favors Dad cause Dad has $$$ and tickets to professional sports games . I do have a great dog though and a sense that I am a good person that has to deal with adversity right now. I found it helpful to watch Castaway, the Piano Player or movies that show how ordinary people get through very hard times. Then it seems like my problems are not so great. I can find a job. I can find a new place to live--maybe an apartment instead of a very nice house. But you can be happy in an apartment and miserable in a nice house.
It's just hard when all the changes are occuring at once.
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almostheaven
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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Don't take his word as gold. Find yourself a good attorney. He might TRY to force the sell of the house, doesn't mean he'll be able to. If you've been married over 10 years, and been a homemaker for a long time, he may find himself paying alimony and you getting the right to remain in the home. If he's good buddies with local attorneys, check for one outside the area that is licensed to practice in the area if possible.
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overtherainbow
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Reged: 10/23/04
Posts: 268
Loc: New England
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Yes -- the he golfs with many of the local attorneys and judges also. It is the judges that I am worried about.He is not representing himself he hired a shark like attorney a real scumbag. I hired a female attorney who hates my husband. When I mentioned his name her eyes narrowed and lips curled. I took that as a good sign and hired her on the spot. I will get alimony since I had a long marriage but he is no dummy and knows all the tricks how to weasel out of as much of it as he can.It is pretty much set by a formula though based on his income. And he is hiding assets and took all the filing cabinets with all the financial statements with him. I will have to get a court order to get those back. He took all my jewelry also and every family picture. Same thing court orders to get them back.
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Diane67
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Reged: 08/14/04
Posts: 341
Loc: California
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LMAO - you are sooo funny!!! Needed a laugh today! Just a little info about the house. My stupid stbx told me the same thing. I told him - YOU cannot sell the house - WE have to sell the house and I am NOT going to sell my house. I can make the mortgage payments and have since we bought it 8 years ago. Just one lucky break for me I guess. Keep your chin up - since you were a SAHM will you be entitle to some support until you get back on your feet?
I (on the advice of my lawyer) took all our financial paperwork to my place of employment. I don't think he's even thought about it. His problem not mine - he wants it - he'll have to ask for it.
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Gecko
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Reged: 06/01/04
Posts: 19891
Loc: Third rock from the sun
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Xmas cards made up of he and my son and is sending them out to all our mutual friends. Of all the mean and low down nasty things to do!!
---> You're kidding right? This has got to be about the absolute PETTIEST piece of horseshit I have ever seen!
---> I'm a NCP and you know what, you can [censored] go to hell!
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If you air your dirty linen in public, expect people to comment on the skid marks!
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overtherainbow
enthusiast
Reged: 10/23/04
Posts: 268
Loc: New England
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Oh MY! It's the Grinch.
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