Slave2x
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18 years, divorced for 8. Paid over 2 hundred thousand dollars to her already.
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Slave2x
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Husband called her about 5 months ago and told her that
business was off and that she might want to look for a job.
She has yet to look for employment.
We have depleted our savings and are barely making our bills.
We haven't been able to pay her the full amount of alimony for a couple of months.
Seeing an attorney this week. Just want to know if the courts are being resonable in these economic times, and what our chances of modification are.
Thanks
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Cinder2
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[quote]NO , he dosn't own his own business!!!
At the time of divorce he was employed at a dealership.
Was let go, and went to work with someone who owns their own car lot, but husband is not on a salary, it's on commision base only. [/quote]
I'm confused - I thought you said you worked for him and if you didn't do it he would have to pay someone else to do it. That's why I thought he owned his own business. What exactly do you do for him?
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]Isn't the fact that you don't work either part of the problem? How is the poor guy supposed to support all three of you? [/quote]
I supported 3 able bodied adults. It can be done
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PhoenixRising
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"I am NOT the problem, the problem is the EX WON'T WORK."
Her working or not has nothing to do with the problem. Your DH would owe her the money; regardless.
It was court-ordered over and above the salary imputed to her.
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Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. --Plato
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Slave2x
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You would have to understand the car business. He is an independent seller, if you understand that.
I do paper work, deliver autos, make sure repairs are done and do detail work.
Why is that relevent?
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Yes_Dad
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I would still attempt a modification based on his new income (can't argue the auto industry is horrible right now) and toss in the fact she hasn't made a work attempt in 8 years. I could see if it was a year but there is a change in circumstances. If he was making more instead of less, you could BET she would be asking for a modification.
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1966Gal
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I do paper work, deliver autos, make sure repairs are done and do detail work.
Why is that relevent?
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It's revelent because the owner of the business should be paying you to do that.
If you want work for your H for no pay, then you can work for someone else WITH pay. Your husband's employers will have to pay to replace you.
If business is so down right now, your H should have plenty of time to do what you do for him, while you seek gainful employment.
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Cassie23
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If you are considered 'disabled' then are you receiving disability benefits (such as a check each month)?
Why was he ordered permanent SS? That seems like a bit much for someone married 18 years? Was that agreed upon? Was that after along battle?
Lastly, when did you make an appearance? How far after the divorce and into the 8 years of SS?
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]I do paper work, deliver autos, make sure repairs are done and do detail work.
Why is that relevent?
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It's revelent because the owner of the business should be paying you to do that.
---> Her income is not germane to the issue
If you want work for your H for no pay, then you can work for someone else WITH pay. Your husband's employers will have to pay to replace you.
---> Again, what does her income have to do with anything. HIS income has gone down (as it has for anyone selling cars these days)
If business is so down right now, your H should have plenty of time to do what you do for him, while you seek gainful employment. [/quote]
----> There is no law that says she has to work. She is not part of the court action nor is her income used to figure support. HIS business is way down (even if she works or doesn't) and it's tough titties. After 8 years, a modification or at least a review is in order and since HIS income is 1/4 of what it used to be, the SS needs to be reflected as such. If his income increase 4X, she the ex would have marched him into court in a heartbeat to claim her "fair share". They don't use a new spouses income to figure SS or CS and in this case, the guy has a good argument to have it lowered. A good compromise would be a yearly review of income because the economy won't be this way forever.
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