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I'll try again
      #54163 - 12/15/05 09:51 AM

I posted this earlier but i cant seem to find it so I'll retype it. Last year, during a brief seperation, my husband told his First Sargeant (He is int he Air Force) some things about me and DSS was called. The allegations were not taking medications(i was not on any meds) and yelling at the kids. My husband and I share a 3 yr old child together. I have an 8 yr old daughter from a previous relationship. Anyway, the charges were dropped and found unsubstatiated. My husband told me that if both kids were hanging off of a cliff, he would save my daughter. He said tha the did not like his son and that he did not care about his son. He made a threat to our son when our son was 3 months old that he would kill him. Husband told me that there was one thing that he coul dhave told the case worker one thing that would have made them remove the kids. I dont know what it could have been. I have never hurt my children in any way. The only thing he has said alot recently is that he has heard me say to my son "I could just kill you." Which I might have said out of frustration a couple times. I know so many parents who have said this. Can he have the kids removed from me when I leave him in January because of this? He has told the case worker that I assulted other family members which I did not do. There have been physical abuse on both parties throughout our marriage. Most recently, the day after Thanksgiving, during a fight (the same fight where he said that he did not like our son), I sustained a bruised shoulder, hip and pulled muscles from his temper. My shoulder was almost broken as well. No photos were taken that night of any injuries. There was one fight about 2 years ago where I was practically choked and do have photos of this. Anyway, I do not know what he has up his sleeve but I am just so scared that he will get my son. I'm a good mom to those kids. I love my kids so much and they love me just as much. I am so ready to spill everything to my lawyer but I am terrified of what he might try to do to get our son. I know that he can not get my daughter, so I am not worried about that.

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Re: I'll try again [Re: WantingOutSoon]
      #54228 - 12/15/05 12:32 PM

First off, why haven't you "spilled everything" to your attorney? That is one of the first things you needed to tell him so he can plan out what needs to be done.

Both of you need some serious counseling about anger manager, physical violence, etc.

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Re: I'll try again [Re: Buckeye]
      #55314 - 12/19/05 12:00 PM

I have been in therapy for a year now and have been in medication for depression and anxiety. As for him, I don't think he feels he needs it.

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Re: I'll try again [Re: WantingOutSoon]
      #57001 - 12/26/05 09:42 AM

Have yout old the therpist about the abuse such as the bruised shoulder, did you tell any of your friends, etc.? In some cases, this can be used.

Did he do it in front of the children because this can help with the custody battle, especially if hte 8-year-old witnessed it.
You should have called the police on the domestic abuse, then it would have been documented. You should have taken the kids left that house and went straight to the police! Do not tell him you are going there of course, then he can come up with all sorts of fabrications.

Hey he can call the police on you, but you have not on hime? I hate to say starting playing his game. Of course, don't lie because it will only get you into trouble, but start thinking about your children.

Furthermore, is your daughter's dad in the picture because he can come back and say that he wants her removed from the home because the household isn't healthy with all the abuse.

Look about Battery Support Groups and start going to them. It will help you in the long run!

Edited by stacey30 (12/26/05 09:44 AM)

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Re: I'll try again [Re: stacey30]
      #59897 - 01/03/06 07:10 AM

Thanks Stacey. I did have a restraining order placed on him for 2 days over Christmas holidays. And he has indeed done this in front of the children. I have told my therapist about the violence. My 8 year old has witnessed a good deal of things from him but her biological father has never ever been in her life, but if I tell him whats going on, he would indeed fight to get her away from him. I will play dirty if STBX does too. When I went to the cops the day after Christmas about his treats of slashing my tires, I put that incident in the report. That is what made them place the no contact order on him and the very next day the kids and I left. I am in NC for this week to finish out my quarter at school then I will be back at my parents with my kids. The kids are not here with me. They are with my parents. You mentioned he could call the cops on me. Why?

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