losingfaith
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Ok so I’m proposing a social experiment.
I have read several posts over the last few moths where two different opinions are given (one by a female and the other by a male). Both sides of the arguments were valid in themselves but each opinion was a direct contradiction to how one viewed “A mans role” vr’s “A woman’s role” in relationships.
Needless to say it got me thinking. So what I would like to know is if each of you can do me a little favor. That is, if you have the time.
The experiment will go like this
First state you age and sex then write a post describing …
(be as descriptive as possible)
#1) How do you view your role, responsibilities and expectations in a relationship/marriage
#2) How do you think the opposite sex views your roles, responsibilities and expectations in a relationship/marriage
#3) How do you view the opposite sexes your roles, responsibilities and expectations in a relationship/marriage
Before we begin I would like to keep this civil and not to have this thread turn into a debate about whose beliefs are right
Here is a little example of what I’m looking for…
36 year old male
#1) I view my role in a relationship/marriage as a provider, father, and husband (and in that order). I bereave it is my job as the man of the house and as the bread winner to provide shelter, food, and love for my kids and my wife. So forth and so on, excreta…, excreta…
The goal that I’m tiring to reach is that each of us can read this and get a better understanding as to how each sex views both their roles and their spouse’/significant others roles in a relationship/marriage. By doing so I hope that it will give all of us a better understanding why as a man I feel this way and as a woman why you feel the way you do.
Thanks in advance to all that reply
Hoe to get some good responses
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Edited by losingfaith (07/08/09 12:53 PM)
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losingfaith
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wow
no one?
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hesaidnoMC
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Hello,
In asking this question to the op, I am not as interested in starting a debate as I am to wondering why the wife comes last in his priorities. Not saying it is right or wrong, just curious as to the reasoning (while not assuming that the wife isn't loved)...
"provider, father, and husband (and in that order)"
Thanks
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shortmarriage
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I must say I agree with that question. The spouse comes last and people wonder why marriges fail? I know that people think it sounds good to say my kids come first, but I think that if you put the marriage first, everyone benefits. When the marriage is the priority, that in turn benefits the kids.
Now that I think of it...I think there's a saying..."If Mom is not happy,than nobody is happy." How about, "If the marriage is not happy, than nobody is happy."
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losingfaith
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To hesaidnoMC
The goal that I was trying to achieve with this post was to show what both sexes believed their role in a family is. I had hoped to give women a better incite into “a mans” beliefs and to give a man a better incite into “a woman’s” beliefs and maybe…
just maybe bridge the gap in this area of a relationship by way of a better understanding of how the opposite sex views things.
The question you brought up was one of the issues I was directly trying to address with this post but it looks like people are not interested
But thanks for the input anyway
As far as your question regarding why I put my wife last…
well that’s easy and while it may not be right on many levels, it’s still the way I believe that as a man, I’m expect to go about things. Anyway on to your answer…
It’s simple to say the least; my wife is last on that list because I would expect that while it is my respectability to do my job every day I also expect my wife can be adult enough to except that I have to do this or we can’t pay our bills. This is only one small part of what I personally believe but I’m not going into all of that right now
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Edited by losingfaith (07/13/09 08:35 AM)
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yregna
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I've got a better social experiment:
Creat a profile on match.com/eHarmony/PlentyOfFish etc...
Make the profile nice and long, then duplicate the profile wording EXCEPT add one sentence. Here is the sentence to add to Profile 2:
In a relationship, I'd like to share all expenses equally. Then post your profiles at alternate times and see which one gets the most responses, considering the fact that they are exactly the same but for one sentence. Last week I posed the same question to my dental hygenist lady and she stated: " I'd only respond to the 1st profile because I don't want to be any man's sugar momma... "
This is really how most women think, splitting expenses EQUALLY means SHE IS SUPPORTING YOU !!
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