nolonger
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M2G, I read your other topic on this forum and now understand that we are in two totally different situations. I'm saddened to learn what your kids went through and saddened for you that it happened in spite of your valient efforts to prevent further damage to your kids.
It's just too bad that there's so much bad in the world that when something "a little bad" happens, we are hardened and don't think legal preventative measures are worthy. I hold myself to the same high standards that you did and I'm trying to avoid feeling the way you probably do. I'm trying to avoid having kids who need therapy to cope with the "little bad things" that happen to them at their dad's. It's not a vindictive thing - it's not about punishing their dad (or in your case, the step mom) - it's about preserving the potential of our children. No amount of hoop-jumping (i.e. communicating 'how to parent' with the ex spouse in the many different ways suggested) could have prevented the damage you are now dealing with, nor can prevent the damage I soon my find myself dealing with as well.
Good luck.
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finz
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[quote]"The word 'ass' appears in the King James version of the Bible 80 times." :grin: [/quote]
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Good Lord , you are obtuse. When did JESUS ever call anyone a dumbass ? Not when did a prophet or disciple ever discuss a donkey. When did Jesus ever call anyone a dumbass ?
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almostheaven
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>>>>>When did Jesus ever call anyone a dumbass ?
When the donkey didn't move? Sorry couldn't resist. Sitting on my plane that wa SUPPOSED to have left 25 min ago and still boarding. Spending another weekend in FL. No Bahama mamas this time. LOL
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nolonger
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[quote]>>>>>When did Jesus ever call anyone a dumbass ?
When the donkey didn't move? Sorry couldn't resist. Sitting on my plane that wa SUPPOSED to have left 25 min ago and still boarding. Spending another weekend in FL. No Bahama mamas this time. LOL [/quote]
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ROFL!!!
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BeckaLeigh
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As I think was already recommended, I would do damage control on my end with my child as much as possible. IE, teach him the correct way of communicating with others, treating others as he would like to be treated, etc.... I know this is hard to hear your child going through, but it seems like unless most of the abusive parents maim or kill the kids, they will not have to answer for their actions anytime soon. I went through a time like this with my X, but have moved past it, thankfully. I can only hope the same for you.
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I tried being normal once. Worst five minutes of my life.
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finz
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lol AH
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karma3
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That is my question about verbal abuse. I just filed for divorce. I left my husband due to verbal abuse of me and "his" daughter. I couldnt take it anymore and he gets a uhaul and packs up the entire house with all my personal belongings and leaves town. When I file for divorce or try to get help from the police, all I get is well, I was the one who left. What? Im supposed to stay and get yelled into the ground. I couldnt take "his" daughter with me even though she wanted to go. The neighbors say she refused to help pack and load the truck and took it hard. I called CPS and they are taking it lightly too. He is recently self employed and they cannot find him to serve him. On the divorce papers no where does it ask about verbal abuse of spouse or kids. I can only imagine what might have happened if I had tried to leave while he was at the house. All I got was my work clothes and my laptop. Im temporarily staying with a relative. The police cant do anything because we are still married. The attorney cant do anything because he hasnt been served. So what do I do? just wait?
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