KLINKS1275
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Reged: 01/27/07
Posts: 43
Loc: ny
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it has come to my attention that my ex has been drinking quite a bit in the past couple of yrs and recently drove my kids home after a brutal fight with her sister after drinking. Now I have no proof of this except for the word of my son who is 8. I feel that this is something that needs to be addressed ASAP! But how do I approach her about it without her lashing out on my kids as she has done quite a bit in the past. Now this along with other disturbing stories have been told to me from my kids in the past and she always takes it ou on them! Dont want that to happen, but cant just sit here and let this go on! They both have also been hit quite a bit by her, when she gets angry with them. What can I do? I need to know they are safe when with her!
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mommyof9
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Reged: 10/04/08
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I just don't know. Many of us have heard disturbing stories from our children, myself included. I've been told that there is nothing I can do until something bad happens. Messed up, huh?
So if your ex gets a DUI and your kids get hurt in the process you can do something. I'll be watching this thread to see what others can offer to you.
Good luck.
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Yes_Dad
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Reged: 08/23/08
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If I believed everything my kids told me when they were 8, I would expect Santa is real, as is the Easter Bunny. No way does an 8 year old know how much alcohol is too much.
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shortmarriage
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Reged: 12/07/08
Posts: 1773
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"No way does an 8 year old know how much alcohol is too much."
----I disagree.
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BeckaLeigh
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Loc: Texas
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I have to agree with SM. My kids know when their dad has had too much to drink. They know the point that it stops being OK to get in a vehicle with their dad.
To the original poster, what I did with my situation is that my lawyer included in our court order that X is not allowed to consume alcohol and/or drugs for 12 hours prior to visitation and the duration of the visit. If I even think he is on something, I have every right to deny him our kids. He no longer sees our kids because he pulled this stunt this past summer when I let him have our kids, trying to be nice. It cost me $$ and sleep but I drove all night to get our kids and I would do it again.
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Rudderless_Ship
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Reged: 08/04/09
Posts: 32
Loc: Mississippi, USA
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I have to agree with SM. My kids know when their dad has had too much to drink. They know the point that it stops being OK to get in a vehicle with their dad.
To the original poster, what I did with my situation is that my lawyer included in our court order that X is not allowed to consume alcohol and/or drugs for 12 hours prior to visitation and the duration of the visit. If I even think he is on something, I have every right to deny him our kids. He no longer sees our kids because he pulled this stunt this past summer when I let him have our kids, trying to be nice. It cost me $$ and sleep but I drove all night to get our kids and I would do it again.
I dont know your/his history but have a curiosity question. Are you going to give him another chance?
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rocketgirl
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Reged: 06/24/04
Posts: 8562
Loc: On the beach in 14 years...
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Oh, boy.. is THIS a loaded question for BL...
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Diplomacy - the art of telling someone to go to hell, and them looking forward to the trip.
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AloneInTheDark
member
Reged: 08/04/09
Posts: 179
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Yes, that is why I put the "i dont know your history" part in. lol, gives an easy out.
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AloneInTheDark but life goes even without being a Dad any more.
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javajunkiee
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Reged: 06/01/08
Posts: 3158
Loc: SC
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Her ex is piece of work. If the phrases "grows up" or "when hell freezes over" aren't in her reply, I'd be surprised.
Do a search on her posts from about a yr ago and you'll see it.
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rocketgirl
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Reged: 06/24/04
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Loc: On the beach in 14 years...
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I might have to PM her so she can answer it 
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Lisa
Diplomacy - the art of telling someone to go to hell, and them looking forward to the trip.
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