CrushedNSide
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My wife is pregnant and she kept holding something back and was hiding something and didnt want to tell me out of fear. Well she finally came out and told me that the child might not be mine because at that time she got pregnant we split up for about a week or two. She was afraid that I would leave her. My mind is twisted in many directions and I have no clue were to start thinking. I love her to death, she has cried many nights in front of me apologizing that the baby could not be mine and she prays at night that the baby is mine because she wants to be with me. I love her to death and I dont want to leave her but this is the biggest thing that hurts and I'm destroyed by it. I just dont know what to do. I think to myself do I stay with her and work past this and make it work and raise the baby as my own but have that dude pay child support or raise the baby and keep him out of it because he is a total dirt bag or do I just leave and ask for a divorce. I love her to death but right now I need to start thinking of everything and make a decision. I need some advice please help!!!!
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Devon
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finz
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Reged: 06/17/08
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If she wasn't pregnant would you want to stay married to her ?
Have you been tested for std's ?
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losingfaith
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Reged: 01/26/09
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oh man that has to hurt I truly feel for you
as fints you should look into an STD test
then I would seek some counseling
this is not going to be an easy decision
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Standing above the crowd he had a voice that was strong and loud
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Buckeye
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You only broke for a week or two and she was already in someone else's arms????
Get a divorce - this marriage isn't going to work.
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CrushedNSide
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Well if she was not pregnant i would still be with her and yes I'm in the military so I got tested like a month ago for std's.
In my mind I want to leave get a divorce and call it over but in my heart it's telling me know you love her stay with her I just dont know right now what to do. I requested service for a chapelin to come talk to me on the ship and I'm waiting for him to stop by so we can talk about this.
I know for my best interest I should get a divorce but she makes it hard by crying in my arms everynight aplogizing this will be the biggest decision of my life I think and it's so hard to make.
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Devon
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Buckeye
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If the baby is yours, stay in the marriage but tell her she is not to do anything like this again - EVER - or you will divorce her.
If the baby isn't yours, don't sign the birth certificate and get divorced.
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danj91
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This is a difficult one. Personally, I dont think I could ever trust her again. I dont think I could knowingly get back with a woman that slept with someone so soon after a split and unprotected on top of that.
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