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I realize this is my emotional stuff to deal with. My soon to be ex cheated on me twice. He is an alcoholic I made the choice to detach could no longer live this way after 28 years.
Anyway he is calling to meet with me to sign the taxes. I have no desire to ever see him, hear his voice again in my life. As far as I'm concerned he is dead. I realize the attorney will make more money. At this point I do not care.
Am I being unreasonable asking him to drop off the taxes at his or my attorney's office and I will stop to sign them ?
I want no contact with him. He is self centered, lied , cheated , been secretive, ripped my heart to shreds, betrayed me. I can forgive in time just not right now. I will never forget. I'm working on healing me now. I do not love him anymore, I dislike him. He is not a nice person, nice people do not do what he has done. It makes me sick to hear his voice. I want this divorce done, I want to heal and work my Alanon steps and get on with my new begining.
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Rebecca5
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There's nothing wrong with you doing whatever you need to do to feel okay. Just make sure you read over the tax papers carefully and don't sign them in haste. The ex and I have been divorced for....8 or so years now, I guess....and I still dislike the sound of his voice....let alone to be physically near him. At the point you are in your proceedings, I would have even made a face at his handwriting on paper.
Just don't let it eat you up inside. You deserve better treatment.
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almostheaven
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As Rebecca said, there's no problem with doing it this way. However, you don't even have to sign them at all. You CAN file married filing separately. You won't maximize any refunds that way, but then again, you may not get any refund anyway if the refund goes to him and he spends it.
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helphelphelp
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I did suggest filing separately in a letter from my attorney and as you mentioned there would be no refund this way there is a small one. For my part... the refund is not worth dealing with him. In past years the bank would not cash the refund check unless we were both present to sign it.So I may have to see him briefly to cash the check.
Rebecca5 I feel similar. Find many things associated with him distainful. I was feeling like i should bite the bullet ,suck it up ''be the better stronger person''. I'm willing to be cooperative, to get the settlement done and the divorce finalized. I just can not stomach him right now.
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Avaya
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Did he prepare the tax return or did an accountant? If an accountant did it, you could go there to sign and not see him. He could have the $$ direct deposited and you wouldn't have to see him to cash the check either. Most accountants e-file and you don't even have to sign the return, just the e-file declaration - but be sure to get a copy of the return if you do this. In fact, even if he prepared it, get a copy - if you get someone new to do your taxes next year, they'll request a copy of your prior years return. If he prepared it, I'd go the route of having him drop it off at the attorney's office - or just mail it to you to sign.
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boby
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hello buddy what are you doing right now a days and what are your activities
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Prievafommema
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Hi Ya'll...
I'm brand new to this forum and just thought it would be a good idea to introduce myself and say "hello".
For once a reliable community with active people that I can follow - that is good to look at!
I am here to learn & get involved in the community. How can I best contribute?
Laters Ya'll!!!
PS: - I'm attempting to locate a lost cousin by the name of Rhett Aderholt, Where would I go looking for him?
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