Yes_Dad
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[quote]YES DAD- do your homework dude..... of course I went to court and in front of a judge...duh!
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You didn't say that. Anywhere.
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]Correct ILMimi, I went in front of the judge, he granted me full custody and control of my son and finalized the divorce on grounds of child abandonment. I have been divorced now 6 months.
Out of the blue she shows up serving me with divorce papers, she, not knowing that we were alredy divorced!
I went to the court house records dept and showed them my divorce decree and what she served me with, they told me she has to withdraw her petition and if she wants custody and child support she needs to have mine reopened and ammended...which I heard cost a lot of money and time to process. in other words, my decree still stands.
my question is, has anyone gone through this before and am I in for a long fight?
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Possession is 9/10th's the law in Illinois. A judge would be VERY reluctant to change anything you obtained previously, especially custody. I don't think you have much to worry about. The judge will see right through her motives.
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Jav
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Thanks Yes_dad, finally a straight answer from someone besides femenist ILMimi...thanks dude.
[quote] Possession is 9/10th's the law in Illinois. A judge would be VERY reluctant to change anything you obtained previously, especially custody. I don't think you have much to worry about. The judge will see right through her motives. [/quote]
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ILMimi
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Thank you for the compliment. I most certainly am a feminist!
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]Thank you for the compliment. I most certainly am a feminist! [/quote]
Not close to some I have met.
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ILMimi
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Actually being a feminist is a good thing. The definition has been mangled to imply women who are militantly biased towards women. I believe in equal rights and opportunities.
I also believe that a man can be just as a good parent as a women and should have joint custody and 50-50 parenting time. It's a shame that my ex, despite his love for his children, can't pull himself together to get that kind of opportunity. I honestly believe he would have had a positive impact on their lives.
But, then again, if he was still "that man" I never would have divorced him and he would be in their lives every day.
Oh well...
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Yes_Dad
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I know some pretty bad ones....but there are certain jobs a woman cannot just do that a man can...like lifting 100 lbs sacks of cement off a truck, much to their advantage because WTF wants a job like that
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ILMimi
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I've seen some women on TV that could lift more than 100 lbs. Yikes!
God bless the women who can do that as well as the men who succeed in traditionally women's professions. It takes courage.
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SusanInNY
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I'm probably too late on this -- but I filed by publication, got sole custody. Later, the ex shows up, not knowing we were divorced even, and says he wants custody. I recall a judge saying "we will not consider granting custody to a parent who did not want to be found", meaning that even if it was abandonment, it doesn't matter -- they didn't show up. You are safe...it would be a very difficult procedure for her to try to regain custody...it just won't happen.
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losingfaith
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I wouldn't count on that
there are situations that it can go the other way
it's rare I will admit but it can happen
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Standing above the crowd he had a voice that was strong and loud
Edited by losingfaith (10/28/09 12:04 AM)
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