myheart
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Reged: 05/21/09
Posts: 116
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Whether there is money or not, what I have seen and told by my children a lot, that truly children do become homeless, they don't feel any home belongs to them. So between the figts among adults, which I sitll have with their father (no no CS or alimoney), just to scheuling etc..., I take 90% of the burden of their raising, but do fee for the children and for the parent who don't get to see their children much, at leat I know I have been fair and children have full choice to see their father even out of normal schedule. Sorry..
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timbuktu
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Reged: 09/26/09
Posts: 22
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Well..things have moved on for the worse in the relationship I thought was going so well.
I AM still currently married but my ex moved out over a year ago. I talked to him about divorce yet he told me that he wants to file his taxes so that I didn't get saddled with them.
My current bf has known about my situation since our first date as I keep no secrets. My ex has no job...ran us into the hole totally financially..and I've looked into filing for divorce..yet..can find no happy medium since...if I file for divorce..being a marital property state...it's gonna take me to the cleaners.
My current bf has a real problem with me not filing. For some reason he thinks being married keeps a connection with me to my ex and he's actually accused me of "double dating" meaning that I'm playing both ends against the middle, which I'm not.
Yet my current bf says, "You'll never get out of the marriage alive...he's gonna take you to the cleaners..and I don't know if I can handle that. It's none of my business as I went through my own divorce and I can see it's eating you alive. I hate the fact that you're still married...people are talking..and until you're divorced...I just don't know.."
He told me that the money I'll be making at my new job...if I file for divorce...they'll take 25% off my wages to pay for all my ex's bills..AND because the loser doesn't have a job..he COULD ask for maintenance which will leave me with basically nothing.
It's such a catch 22 and it sucks!! My current bf told me that he still loves me and wants to be my bf...yet I need to pave my own road here as he's too infested in his own troubles to take on mine.
Any advice?
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