philivey
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Wife is violent and pregnant living with me. I feel as though I am living in fear of her constantly. I do not enjoy sex, I do not enjoy talking to her, I do not enjoy being with her. I am afraid of her parenting my child. Is there a way to get full custody of the child upon birth? How do I start building a case for it to happen or just as an insurance policy incase of the future?
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gr8Dad
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Get a small digital video camera, hide it when she will be home, get the evidence on video. As for the child, you have to be careful, if she is not that far along, she CAN abort it just to spite you.
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1966Gal
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File police reports every time she assaults you. Document, document, document. No one is going to award you custody of a baby just because you say she's violent. You have to prove it. Police reports!!
-------------------- The Gov cannot give anything to anyone - that they have not first taken away from someone else.
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philivey
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If I file police reports though, they will come over and talk to her. They just won't allow me to file reports without follow-up. I fear she'll leave then and the stress it will have on the baby.
She also has an 11 year old daughter who is living with me.
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1966Gal
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Imagine the stress the baby will endure growing up with a violent mother. You are going to protect the unborn baby at the expense of not being able to protect the child once it's born because you won't be able to prove the violence.
If you aren't willing to do what it takes, then why are you here even asking?
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gr8Dad
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...I have SEEN you talk to abused women, and it is NOTHING like that. He is ABUSED and is trying to protect the baby, which she can abort at ANY time. He DOES need to be careful. Why? Because B!TCHES like you treat abused men DIFFERENTLY.
God DAMN you are ignorant!
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Banannie
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Not only will the police come and "talk" to her -- if there is ANY sign of domestic violence, she WILL be taking a delightful ride to the local jail.
I think handcuffs are a lovely way to accessorize almost any outfit! Their shine gives a lovely hue that compliments every color and outfit -- from pajamas to ball gowns, handcuffs can make a girl feel proud.
Most people are paralyzed by fear -- and the "what ifs". Get over it! Babies are remarkably resilient -- and there is FREE/REDUCED fee medical care while in jail.
Ditch the b!tch!
Edited by Banannie (11/11/09 07:37 AM)
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philivey
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My concern is that if I start filing police reports she'll go to jail or be arrested which would be very very stressfull and the baby could be aborted as a result of this stress. I am trying to protect the baby.
Once the baby is born that's a whole different story. I will not take the abuse. In the mean time I want some type of documentation that will hold up in court. Will tape recordings of conversations hold up? Will photo's hold up?
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Banannie
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OMG dude -- get real. If you don't address the abuse situation now, it will get worse.
If you think jail stress is "bad for the baby", call your MD and ask him/her how maternal stress and rage impacts a fetus. I think you'll find that this rage-a-holic b!tch is doing more harm to the unborn baby than any 24 hour stint in jail ever will.
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Buckeye
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Has wife always been like this? The reason I ask is that some woman don't react well to pregnancy - their hormones cause them to go off their rockers.
Maybe she needs mental help now - talk with her doctor.
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