proudpop
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For the 2 months I paid a total of $2,638. Also to clarify the She is remarried with 2 other children.
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proudpop
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I paid $2,630 for the 2 months.
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ssmom79
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It would be from $1250 to $440(ish) if we based it on the 50/50 schedule. So about $800 a month in savings.
ETA: This isn't just from going from EOW to 50/50...there would be a reduction because SD was in full time daycare at divorce and now neither child is in after school care. About $230 of the $1250 is support for daycare. But since it's less than 10% the attorney said it's a waste, because we'd bring it to court, she'd fight it, we'd have to pay her attorney, it'd be a big dramafest with the kids. In hubby's opinion, $800 a month in savings isn't worth the drama and damage it would be to the kids.
Edited by ssmom79 (11/12/09 02:20 PM)
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JennyLynn
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If they will be with you more, I would be requesting a change.
Proudpop, what is the visitation schedule as worded in the CO?
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Cassie23
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Given the visitation you had for those two months, if that continued just as it was-- you wouldn't be paying ANY CS, and she would have been paying YOU.
So I say look into modifying custody or at least visitation. She can still have primary residency, but you are close enough to do a week on/week off scenario.
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ssmom79
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Still think you're crazy to ask for money back. You are really better off shooting for the 50/50 with support based on that if you can afford a battle. Expect her to fight tooth and nail for every dollar. She feels entitled to that money.
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JennyLynn
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I agree.
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ssmom79
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And I really don't mean crazy-stupid ProudPop. I don't want to offend. You just can't go retro in a situation like that. I think if you went a different direction with your question you might have had better results. You could try the "let's try 50/50 and see how it goes for a while" then once you have the status quo at 50/50 ask for a modification.
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Cassie23
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I don't know I would have asked. You gotta think if these two have a decent relationship and co parent fairly well, then he probably felt comfortable asking her. You gotta think there has to be some BMs out there that would be willing to at least give PART of the CS back without a fight. I would hate to think there are none?? :(
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ssmom79
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It's hard to guess Cassie. I know that hubby and BM co-parent FANTASTICALLY but if he asked her about money at all it'd change the whole dynamic.
I would also hope there'd be some BM's who'd be willing to adjust without incident. I'd like to think that if hubby and I were parents and divorced I'd go 50/50 straight off and should a CS exchange be necctime to get where they are, I guess it's worth it to hubby.esary, base it on 50/50.
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