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proudpop
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Am I crazy?
      #598686 - 11/12/09 12:35 PM

I'm a NCP with 3 children. I recently purchased a home in a neighboring town to my childrenís moms. We both agreed that it was a much better school district so since September 2 of the 3 children have been basically living with me. By this I mean they have been stay with me Monday through Friday and every other weekend. During this time I have still been paying her full child support. Now after 2 months of them living with me I asked her to consider refunding some of that money to help cover expenses. Her response was that I was crazy for even asking and now is keeping them with her and driving them every morning to school and picking them up afterwards. Am I crazy for asking? I thought it was a reasonable request. In the end I donít care about the money. Itís far more important for them to be in the better district.

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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: proudpop]
      #598696 - 11/12/09 01:16 PM

She is using the money to fund her single life without you instead of working it sounds like. Especially if she can drive the kids to and from school. Of course she doesnt want to give it up and she is driving the kids so you cant take her to court and get custody and not pay any child support for the kids.

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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: proudpop]
      #598697 - 11/12/09 01:17 PM

Yes I do think you were crazy to ask for a refund of your CS. Never hurts to ask though.

And if it's more important to have them in the better district and you really don't care about the money, then it's better to pay the money and have the kids than pay the money and not have the kids.


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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: proudpop]
      #598698 - 11/12/09 01:18 PM

No, she is crazy to think that the kids can live with you while she collects the $$$$$

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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: AloneInTheDark]
      #598699 - 11/12/09 01:19 PM

Funding single life and not working? Did I miss that in the original post?

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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: ssmom79]
      #598701 - 11/12/09 01:23 PM

I have a crazy husband who knows that if he asks for a reduction in CS because of our 50/50 situation, that he would go back to EOW. He could fight it if he could afford to, but he cannot plus he doesn't want the kids to be going through that sort of battle. So he prefers to pay the money and get the kids than pay the money and not have the kids. That's the reason behind my answer I meant to add that.

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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: proudpop]
      #598703 - 11/12/09 01:38 PM

No you are not crazy. From what I read SHE has the kids FOUR days a MONTH. How is it that you are supposed to feed, clothe and shelter the children when you have them 26 days a month and still paying regular CS??

Many parents could NOT afford to continue to pay CS AND house, feed, clothe their children. I know that we could not.


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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: ssmom79]
      #598705 - 11/12/09 01:41 PM

ssmom--- how much would your CS be reduced by? If it was a couple of hundred dollars I could see keeping quiet. However if we would have taken in SD FT, with her Mom having EOWeekend (like the NCP stated above) we could not afford to give SD all she needs and pay $1100. In that regard the CP would be pocketing $1100/month and NOT giving CS where she should. BM would have owed us $400/month in CS given that scenario. So we would be out $1500/month. Most families couldn't afford that.

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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: Cassie23]
      #598706 - 11/12/09 01:42 PM

I agree w/ you Cassie.

To the OP - how much CS are you paying?


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Re: Am I crazy? [Re: proudpop]
      #598712 - 11/12/09 01:55 PM

I would go to court and get 50/50 visitation. Make sure you have written down all the days you had the children over the last months. I am looking at it as a change of circumstances as to why your visitation should be 50/50--- you now live in the same neighborhood. After that is taken care of you can get CS reduced to fit the new schedule.

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