merlot36
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Well I would not mine paying for the lunches. However he nickel and dimes me for any expenses he incurs on behalf of the children that is school related.
My original custody was one thu and then thu to Sun...Even when this was the case which was 6 months ago. The father did not pay for the childrens lunches during his parenting time. Now we changed parenting time to because he claims to want to spend additional time with the kids. Hence the new schedule. I just finish doing a CS modification but it has not been process.
There is CS..but is that not to help balance the expenses in both household. For the kids clothing, shelter and food at my home. He makes way more money than I do...Why can he pay for lunches when they are in his care...
Does that mean that I am to provide his household with food for my children because he pays child support?
So child support mean what? that you as the parent who is receiving the money has to provide clothing, food and any necessaties that the children need to the other parents household because once they pay child support they are not responsible for any expenses outside of that. Not even lunch for their kids in school?
I beleive if it was the other way around I would be taken into court and been crucified. She gets money but she is not providing lunches for the kids. Isnt this the same scenario?
Edited by merlot36 (11/14/09 10:41 AM)
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Cassie23
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If your CS is based on the OLD schedule, and you have always paid their lunches, then continue to do so until the CS is changed to reflect the new parenting plan. When it does, I would tell your X what he owes for lunches and see if he can prepay (ahead to the school) for his time, as you will for yours. Or he can give it directly to you.
Edited by Cassie23 (11/14/09 11:01 AM)
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Sherron
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"Or he can give it directly to you. "
Sorry, but if the other party was here, my advice would be to pay the lunch money directly to the school.
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Sherron
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"I beleive if it was the other way around I would be taken into court and been crucified. She gets money but she is not providing lunches for the kids. Isnt this the same scenario? "
But, isn't this what you are proposing? To keep receiving the money and not provide lunches? If you are receiving cs based on the old order, during which you provided for all school lunches, then yes you should provide for all school lunches until that order is changed. Again, how much $$ are we talking about per month?
How do you feel about receiving cs based on you being the primary parent with most of the time, when the time is no split equally? I think that is the scenario, if I understood correctly?
"He makes way more money than I do..."
And?
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merlot36
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I am still confused...Sherron...What difference does it make on the past 6 months. I was receiving cs based on the dates that we had which were as I mentioned above....Thu- and Thu to Sun...That means I paid 4 lunches a month which means is about 78.00 for 6 months...
Iam now paying 8 lunches a month since the custody change which was changed in Oct...
I understand the part that you explain regarding the CS not being modified as of yet and that I am still getting CS based on a 68% instead of 50%. However what about the dates that have always been his dates were lunch has been cover by me.
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BeachBabeRN
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At that price, have you considered packing a lunch?
That's an awful lot of money for school lunches.
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Sherron
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"That means I paid 4 lunches a month which means is about 78.00 for 6 months...
Iam now paying 8 lunches a month "
So, you used to pay for 4 lunches at month, now pay for 8. It used to be $78 for those 4 lunches per month. That is $13 a month?? Personally, I wouldn't rock the boat over $13/month, especially if cs will be revised shortly anyway (right?).
"However what about the dates that have always been his dates were lunch has been cover by me."
But, you already set the precedent for that, chuck it up to lesson learned. When will cs be revised? When that happens, just make sure he understands that expenses occured during each parent's time will be born by that parent, including lunches. I would push to have wording to that effect in the cs order, if possible. Either way, a new cs order will be a good time to break the precedent you previously set.
You said he's nickeling and diming you. Can you give examples, and do you pay those?
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merlot36
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Oh yes I consider it...However when I do send lunch it becomes a matter of having to deal with the x husband not return back the lunch boxes back or dirty lunch boxes return to my household at some points the lunches were left in the boxes from Fri to Sun. The back and forth had become such a conflict. I opted to do the horrific expensive lunch and I forgot to times that by 2 children. So is double the cost
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Sherron
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"At that price, have you considered packing a lunch?
That's an awful lot of money for school lunches. "
Maybe I misread, but I understood it's $78 for 6 months worth of lunches, or $13 per month, for 4 lunches. That's $3.25 per lunch... for a hot meal, I don't think that's out of line?
Just a thought... but have you checked into the schools reduced and free lunch program? It's based on income, but many school websites list the guidelines, and you could see if you qualified? Or call the district office and ask what the income guidelines are?
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Sherron
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"at some points the lunches were left in the boxes from Fri to Sun."
In all fairness, that is your children's issue, not your ex's.
I might have missed it, but how old are the kids?
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