DouginDlo
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Reged: 12/21/09
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I made 1 mistake(1 niter w/ family friend)and its about to end 5 years of marriage...reconciliation out of the ? for her.And She has wasted no time on it either..5 mos separated and already has papers drawn and wants signed before year is up.Is this common?I've remained faithful through out the separation yet judging from e-mails in her Myspace page.it wasn't 3 weeks after I left she was already browsing other guys profiles.Is this the behaviour of a woman jilted by her husband or a woman who already made up her mind before we separated?I made a mistake and feel guilty as hell..but I didntn't' believe it wasn't anything that couldn't been worked out.I'm still madly in love with her and would cut off all my limbs to keep her.Her claim is not so much as what but whom.We have a gorgeous 3y/o blue-eyed blonde daughter to boot.
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pokey
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Reged: 07/16/09
Posts: 1786
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Some people can't forgive that. I gorgave my first wife the FIRST time. I tried to forgive her the second time but just couldn't. I really don't know why people don't think about what they do before they do it.
My ex left the house one week after we got into a fight (not a big fight at all). Three weeks later filed for divorce. I guess when your minds made up, it's just made up and there is nothing or no one that can do anything about it.
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myheart
enthusiast
Reged: 05/21/09
Posts: 213
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I guess there is a breaking point, and relationship breaks for nothing sometimes. It is very hard ot know what was the breaking point.
When one spouse does something, which destorys others self confidence and even feel worth in the marriage, a person may walks away and it may not be her forgiving you, it may be more, she can't look at you without thinking about OW.
Her looking towards other guys again, validates that she really went down the pit and felt rejected or felt not good enough for you to do what you have done, she may needed validation from others to see if she is still desired.
It is all my theory, may want to look at her side as well. When a family breaks it breaks everybody's heart, and it is painful.
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BeachBabeRN
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Reged: 01/16/06
Posts: 3032
Loc: VA for 21 years, NC forever!
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At the risk of sounding harsh, why weren't you thinking of your **gorgeous 3 year old blonde blue eyed daughter** instead of what you were thinking of?
I don't know the ins and outs of your situation but I do know myself and your **1 niter with a family friend** would have caused the same result with me.
There are certain things that are non-negotiable with me and that's one of them. What your STBX does while she's SEPARATED is quite different from what you did while you were MARRIED.
There is no making someone forgive you for what you did and while now you'd give up everything to keep her, what you should have given up was the brief fleeting rutting that you did with someone else.
No guarantee that your marriage would have survived but at least you wouldn't have that as a reason.
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english7
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Reged: 11/27/09
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A "slip"? You call what you did a SLIP?! A slip is an accident, like when the floor is slick and you find yourself on your butt through no fault of your own. I don't blame her for her "hasty" actions.
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BeachBabeRN
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Reged: 01/16/06
Posts: 3032
Loc: VA for 21 years, NC forever!
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I can guarantee that what you consider **hasty** is slow as a turtle compared to how fast I'd get rid of you --
Not you english, the OP.
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Miranda
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Reged: 06/02/05
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Loc: North of Mexico
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Yeah that would be a deal breaker for me too, you should have thought about your beautful blue-eyed daugther before you banged a family friend.
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Redlegg
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Reged: 10/05/06
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Come on, he has been faithful during the seperation [barf icon]
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BeachBabeRN
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Reged: 01/16/06
Posts: 3032
Loc: VA for 21 years, NC forever!
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Well, okay then......(big barf icon)
That counts.
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timbuktu
journeyman
Reged: 09/26/09
Posts: 77
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There's just no excuse for cheating, I don't care how you want to look at it.
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