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I am in the middle of a heated divorce and will make this short as poss. I have two kids (10 and 12) that both have stated that they want to live with me due mostly to the horrible actions of their mother. They are actually scared of her. We are currently doing week to week with the kids and they do not like it. I have them in therapy and their therapists is starting to see the concerns. Anyway, she has now started to say that I physically abused her. This could not be farther from the truth. And here is my question... Could these false acusations hurt me??
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Miranda
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I am willing to bet that a large % of women cry abuse during a divorce proceeding. She has to prove it. Do you have an attorney. I know it is easy for me to tell you not to worry, but she will look worse in the end for lying about abuse.
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Are you in San Antonio? I am there too if you are but I live in Guadalupe county.
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yes, I have an attorney. Its just sad for the kids!!! Looking back I know it was all planed by her. I basically caught her at a bar with another man. Had someone take pictures of them kissing. I showed up and did not lay a hand on her or him. If I was ever gonna be violent, it would have been then. She wanted me to move out of the house and for me to file. This way she could tell everyone that I left her and that I filed. Well, i did move out (should have never done that) but I did it to "work" on our marriage. Couldnt get her to go to cnsling, so I went alone. Kept catching her with him. So, I filed but I swung for the fence!!!! Adultery, mental anguish, I want the kids, the house, disproportionate share of the assests. I went into quite a bit of debt to save my business and I personally guaranteed it all. Her name is not on any of it!! She says that she had no idea about the debt,(false) and that I am a financial wreck and cant take care of the kids. BS! She has her own money, but my parents live close and help with the kids a lot. Her parents live even closer than mine, but have not seen the kids in years. I know I am right and in my heart think that i will come out on top for the kids. its just the unknown that kills me.
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lol that freaked me out for a second!! Was thinking how the heck did they know that????
SADAD got it!!!!
Yes, san antonio
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Miranda
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Ha I did not see it at first, but then I saw "sa" and Texas. I figured it was here or San Angelo. Are you in Bexar county? I am surprised you all are doing a week on and a week off. That is relatively progessive and Texas is not a progessive state at all. Child support is a straight %, how are you all doing that?
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yes, bexar county. No temporary orders, no child support. My kids, especially my son, fear her and do not want to be with her. He is twelve and signed the form stating that he wants to live with me. Therapist has seen some signs and understands that they do not feel safe. My attny is off till mon and I know that my x is gonna file something on the 7th. I swear, she is crazy!!! Does not want me to go to the house to drop off the kids. She suggested a neutral area...Mcdonalds parking lot!! WTF??? I not exchanging my kids in a fast food parking lot!!!! I have an apt down the street from my house and had her bring them to me! If she files for temp orders, will she get the kids and make me pay cs? Or, can i beat her to the punch and get the therapist involved?
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Has no one filed for divorce yet? IF not, you need to get your lawyer to do it ASAP. Monday. YOU need to ask for custody. What is your lawyer doing?
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Edited by Miranda (01/01/10 11:29 PM)
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Ok this may be a bit lengthy so let me appologize while I try to give you the "cliff notes".
I filed but I swung for the fence!!!! Adultery, mental anguish, I want the kids, the house, disproportionate share of the assests. I started off with one lawyer who told me that i would need 30 - 40k for a custody battle and that I would prob not get my kids. Well, i didnt go for that so I fired him and got a new one.
fastforward a bit.... My ex is now reaching for straws. She filed for a full discovery. I have spent more time getting bank statements, credit card bills, copies of checks, etc!! like I said above, I went into debt trying to save my business. I guess she was looking for things that I did wrong. She was looking for accounting errors suggesting that I stole money from the business.
She has not (and will not) find that because I didn't. Her lawyer wanted 5 years of quickbooks data - I gave her 10. She wanted specific items from different tax returns - I gave her 5 yrs of complete tax returns. When that started to go nowhere she is now saying that I abused her physically.
my new lawer has moved some things along!! Had a social study and it came back in my favor. I should have decision making authority, that they should live with me etc. The social worker found out that we were going to mediation and at the ninth hour right before he filed the report, he added that it would be an "option" for us to split time even with the kids. Well, in mediation, she latched on to that and we went nowhere.
I have offered to take ALL of the debt., less than half the equity in the house, but I want the kids on my terms..decision maker, live with me, she pays child support. She would have probably agreed to it all except the support. That is the reason she wants to half them. Then it would boil down to time and time = money! Money is where its at for her!!!!
She had a trust (I know, it just keeps getting better) and spends all this time looking up what "she" paid for and what the marital estate owes her personal estate. She has gotten as low as a tree in the yard, wall paper, property taxes that was paid for with those funds. (directly from that acccount. no comingle.) She spent that freely! I never had any input on "her" money!
She handled the "family" finances and basically spent everything that I could make. Savings were never discussed because of her trust.
Back to discovery, I didnt ask for the same from her, although I think that I might be entitled to 1/2 of any profit or interest that her money made while we were married, because its not about money to me!
I fear going to court because I keep hearing that Judges can do whatever they want no matter what evidence you have and since I am the father, I might already be at a disadvantage. Its like I am in a card game and my kids are the chips!!
She cheated on me....I filed for divorce....kids stated they want to live with me....social study in my favor....therapists sees the damage to kids....
Dang, its all in my favor but it seems to go nowhere. I fully believe that my lawyer is not "milking" me. She does a ton of stuff that she doesn't charge me for and allows me to make monthly payments. I do think that the ex's lawyer is milking the crap out of her!
are you a lawer? what do you know about bexar county? How the heck do I speed this BS up! what chance do I have in getting custody? What chance do I have in getting primary full sole custody? Does she really have a claim about me owing her money?
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Edited by sadad (01/02/10 06:55 AM)
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COME ON PEOPLE, ANY HELP OUT THERE????
ANY SUGGESTIONS???
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