BurnedbyDivorce
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My wife filed for divorce in June '08. Long story short, we did a settlement agreement and I was on the losing end. I assumed over $100K in debt while she got all the furniture, lawyer fees paid, $600 a month spousal support, and a portion of my retirement.
Note: she is actively employee as a bank teller with a nail tech cert and some college.
I started paying $600 starting in Sep '08. I've paid on time, every month... painfully. A friend told me that she is 4 months pregnant and engaged. He also said I should check out her facebook as confirmation. It was confirmed... I sent her text messages "fishing" for info congratulating her. She quickly caught on I think and said she wasn't engaged. That she doesn't plan to get married. Then said she they broke up. I asked about the baby and she said she lost it last week. Low, right? She then asked why I cared all of a sudden. Immediately, she removed any evidence off of Facebook.
We got divorced in California and I've looked up the following: [url=[censored]://[censored].cadivorce.com/spousal-support/spousal-support-modification-other-factors.htm]Remarried or Cohabitation in CA[/url]
Anyone have any advice how to approach this? I'm thinking about getting a consult and see how much it would cost me to go back to court. Plus, I am in Hawaii so the lawyer would have to act on my behalf. I think it would be hard to deny that her living conditions have changed if she shows up to court pregnant.
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1966Gal
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Mere pregnancy or being engaged are not reasons to terminate spousal support.
Read your divorce decree. If it's pretty standard, it will say that spousal support ends upon cohabitation, remarriage or death. Nothing else.
It's very hard to prove cohabitation. Remarriage and death are easy to prove. If none of those three things have happened, you have no case to terminate spousal support.
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]My wife filed for divorce in June '08. Long story short, we did a settlement agreement and I was on the losing end. I assumed over $100K in debt while she got all the furniture, lawyer fees paid, $600 a month spousal support, and a portion of my retirement.
Note: she is actively employee as a bank teller with a nail tech cert and some college.
I started paying $600 starting in Sep '08. I've paid on time, every month... painfully. A friend told me that she is 4 months pregnant and engaged. He also said I should check out her facebook as confirmation. It was confirmed... I sent her text messages "fishing" for info congratulating her. She quickly caught on I think and said she wasn't engaged. That she doesn't plan to get married. Then said she they broke up. I asked about the baby and she said she lost it last week. Low, right? She then asked why I cared all of a sudden. Immediately, she removed any evidence off of Facebook.
We got divorced in California and I've looked up the following: [url=[censored]://[censored].cadivorce.com/spousal-support/spousal-support-modification-other-factors.htm]Remarried or Cohabitation in CA[/url]
Anyone have any advice how to approach this? I'm thinking about getting a consult and see how much it would cost me to go back to court. Plus, I am in Hawaii so the lawyer would have to act on my behalf. I think it would be hard to deny that her living conditions have changed if she shows up to court pregnant. [/quote]
You didn't say how long your bondage will last....if it's 3-4 years, just swallow it, take your tax deduction, motion for copies of hers, and just generally harrass her with motion after motion. $600 isn't much. Good thing is you have no kids. I would also motion for notification of any change in employment. She probably makes some money under the table with her "nail" business LOL..you need to know if she is getting income from that. Monitor her ANOMALOUSLY on Facebook or MySpace or wherever.
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migirlinjured
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Hello, I am New too all of this & this is my 1st post. Myself on the other end of the spectrum. Do you mind if I ask how long you were married?
I myself am going to attempted a "do it yourself kit"....married 9-20-08 then in a terrible car accident 1-1-09.....2 of my children, my husband and myself were all in the multi roll over. My son was flown out to Mary Free Bed w/head injury(15yrs old) I broke my neck in 3 plc my back in 2 plcs and broke my righ shoulder and shattered my right scapula, Not to mention the head injuries, internal ect....My husband had a large cut across the top of his head, stiched & released.
He stayed with me in the Hospital till the 17 of Jan. Packed his things there & said "He didnt get Married to take care of his wife". He has blinked in&out of my home for well over a year and a half now, REFUSES TO GIVE ME A DIVORCE, yet have never stayed more than 3 days and then gone for wks to months. No income here, cant work, he never added me to his insurance and he has been back to work (makes good $$) never has 1nc paid 1 bill or even offered to help.
I intend to ask the St of MI for Spousal Support and medical help from his insurance. Any advice or think I can do this?
I myself owned a Hair Salon and have a College Degree yet Surgeons say 100% disabbled. No SSD as of yet and the Ins Co has been Terrible
Any advise would be incredibly appreciated.
Sorry to hear about your deal, sounds kinda RAW!
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migirlinjured
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Any Advice or direction would be appreciated. I live in MI and was married now over a year and half and he says he will NEVER DIVORCE me yet left me 17 day after I was broke?????????
Hope the Judge will be understanding just how difficult life has been, phsyically, finacially, and emotionally.
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