denied37
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This may be a stupid question. Husband and I have been having significant problems for 7 of our 8 years of marriage, an idea, running up credit card bills on 1-900 numbers ($700.00) one month, okay after confronted, 6 months later, stopped. Has a drinking problem, was able to control himself 1st year of marriage, after that, went to he!!. When he gets drunk he destroys things/breaks things. Okay got that under control the destroying thing, still drinks, had an affair(lasted 3 months), started talking to a woman who works with him, spent hours and hours on the cell phone with her, when confronted, stopped, has subscribed to singles websites, started another phone relationship with a woman he met on line, had a thing about calling escorts, not sure if he actually did anything.
Okay, last week another incident occured with his drinking, he decided he needs to be fixed. I can't get past the anger, although I did not want to file for divorce right now until I get better financially.
Question is, if he files for divorce, could we both stay in the house? I know if one of us threatens or destorys the other's property, could be grounds to have them removed. Since it's Friday afternoon, I haven't been able to talk to an attorney. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
Oh, he also makes 3x more money than me, but does pay child support to his ex-wife. Spousal support? Maybe?
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Susanf31
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Yes, you can both stay in the house if you want to. If he's violent you can get a restraining order on him and he will not be allowed in the house.
Do you have any police reports documenting his outbursts and property damage?
If not, you really need to start calling the police every time he does it, and get your documentation in order. Then get your RO.
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Jsands200
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Yes, you can both stay in the house. If you are threatened or violence errupts, you can claim domestic violence and have him removed from the residence.
About spousal support, it depends on how long you have been married. Generally, if it is three years or less, spousal support will not be granted, so in your case with 8 years of marriage you can look forward to it. I guess you don't have any kids with this man? Child support for previous marriages will have no effect on child support with kids during your marriage with him.
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Maury
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I would suggest what Jsands says. There is no need to leave. Be vigilant of potential abuse and do not put yourself in harms way. You are also in a good position to document concerns. Photos of alcoholic beverages, particularly those in garbage cans, goes a long way.
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LinusluvsSally
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I would also audit his computer if he has one.
ESPECIALLY if you have children around.
From what you say in your post, I wouldn't be surprised if you find massive amounts of [censored] and document what you find. If you have children in the house they could be exposed to it.
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