dpotts
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Hi all. I am currently going through my first divorce and am having a hard time right now. I'm 37 years old and was married for 12 years. The end of Jan of this year, my husband told me that he thought that we should separate "over the summer". That's right folks he wanted to stay together up until the summer then end it. Well that didn't work for me so the separation started at that point with him moving about a few weeks later.So the papers are now filed and he has moved on with some old flame that he reconnected with over facebook (they reconnected a few months before we separated) and I am left trying to piece together my life and carry on. I am lucky enough to have a great job and can support myself. My husband has left me with about everything including the house (guilt can be a lovely thing!)and we have no kids so I guess I should consider myself lucky but I can't seem to get on with things. I feel like such a failure. I'm doing my best to move on. I have taken up running, lost 40 lbs and have even started dating a new man...but I'm still hung up on the fact that the man I once loved just up and left. I can honestly say that neither one of us had been happy together for a long time so why am I having such a hard time right now? Not sure what else to do right now.....
Deanna
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Trying2MoveOn
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When you have been with someone for that long (I was with my ex for 12 years, married for 10) it is so hard to move on. There are so many memories, some good, some bad, but as time passes it is so easy to just remember the good times. Good for you for doing things for yourself. You are not alone.
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finz
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Kudos for making positive changes even while your brain is 'stuck' on what could have been.
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yregna
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Deanna,
Your just pissed you didn't get more cash out of the deal...If he was writing you a fat check each month, you wouldn't be posting here...
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lonely12
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I wish I had your courage. I also divorced after 12 yrs and it has been sooooo..hard for me to continue my life. I have a daughter with him and have to see is sorry face every other weekend. He tries to act like we are best friends and he has not yet had the courage to say sorry for all the pain he has caused not only me but his daughter after breaking up our marriage for OW.
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