Godess2u
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I'm wondering if I could have some input?
It takes two to wreck a marriage - went to counseling, husband of 26 years decides he didn't want to play any more, wanted a new life. So he has one. Ok, here's the thing, wanted to stay in the house til youngest graduated from HS and not tell anyone - not the kids. That didn't work out for him.
Yup, SAHM (yes it was work) became disabled during marriage. (comments can be kept at a min. - it sucks hard enough as it is) HOWEVER, I do work part-time as allowed by SSDI from my home to try and make ends meet. I pay all the bills for the house and kids 15 and 20 with my PT work and the SS and CS we agreed upon per decree.
Fast forward divorce final end of last year. We sat down together and came up with CS + SS agreement and gave it to my lawyer (he didn't "NEED" a lawyer.) So, one month after divorce is final, he decided he doesn't want to pay and files an order to show cause to modifiy the SS. He lives with his parents, buys new stereo equipment, goes on golfing trips and is always late with money. Ok I want him to be happy, but hold up your end of the deal as I am pulling in a whole $1300 income, that's SSDI and job. He made $49,000 in 2008, and "amended" his 2009 tax return. WTF does that mean? Started his own company while we were married, it's going pretty well I guess. He gets paid two different ways, hiding money???
So the question is how do I stop this order to show cause? Seeing my lawyer Thursday and he is on notice to get his tush in gear......THis started in December, really???
Any thoughts would be appreciated, but the rude ones!! :smirk:
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stuckinarut
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How did you get your lawyer on notice to get his tush in gear?
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Godess2u
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Umm asked him if he wanted to work on my case, if not, feelings wouldn't be hurt, but time to do what lawyers do - play hard ball....
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gr8Dad
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Okay, to begin with, the oldest is TWENTY. He is not a kid anymore, he or she is an ADULT.
His order to show cause is, I assume, to have the spousal support reduced. He will have to submit paperwork substantiating this ahead of time, you will get to see it and if it is valid, I guess he has a case, if it isn't, then he doesn't.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Yes_Dad
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It will be ending sometime, might as well be now
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Godess2u
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Twenty year old per divorce gets $ as long as she is in college...she is...
Yes_Dad-- Now does not mean one month after our divorce was final.
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Miranda
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In my experience, show cause is like a contempt case.
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]Twenty year old per divorce gets $ as long as she is in college...she is...
Yes_Dad-- Now does not mean one month after our divorce was final. [/quote]
LOL--no--it won't be changed...yet at least...
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gr8Dad
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What is he asking for in the motion?
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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Godess2u
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See here's the odd thing - he hasn't offered anything on paper or in person yet. He has said that I'll get what I'm "entitled" (as if!) to by the law. Then says he wants to make sure the kids and I are taken care of....
I am meeting with my lawyer tomorrow. Hopefully we can put some kind of stop to this motion. His circumstances have not changed dramatically, I think he will have a tough time showing "extreme hardship" to the judge. But then again, you never know.
I guess I don't understand for someone who wanted a divorce, he just won't give up. WE wrote up the original agreement together... We don't have much, and I am not "taking" anything from him. I just want to be able to make ends meet....
Anyway, thank you for your thoughts, this is an interesting place....
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gr8Dad
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Well, you have to be realistic, he makes $49K a year and after paying child support on two kids, there isn;t really much left over for spousal support and still leave him sufficient money to live on. I mean child support alone is close to 10K a year, that drops him to 39K, take out taxes, he is at 30K, not much more you can take out of that.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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yregna
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SAHM and becoming Disabled kinda is an ongoing trend, eh ? Its really the best way to get the most money out of a man after the marriage is over...
I guess I should be feeling lucky I was able to force my ex to go back to work. It is truly amazing and sad how many women become disabled while a SAHM. Sickening, really...
Are there ANY gov't check scams where women are NOT the majority ?
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]Well, you have to be realistic, he makes $49K a year and after paying child support on two kids, there isn;t really much left over for spousal support and still leave him sufficient money to live on. I mean child support alone is close to 10K a year, that drops him to 39K, take out taxes, he is at 30K, not much more you can take out of that. [/quote]
I wouldn't even think alimony would be an issue for someone making only $49K. It takes more time and energy than it would be worth
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zazzycat67
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I have a question.. new to this.. my husband and I are on a verge of divorce.. his bio children live here that I have raised now they are teens and the bio mother came back 1 year ago .. anyways long story short.. I am on disabilty and he works and makes more money than me and he also collects support.. am I entitled for spousal support.. I called domestics they said fill out the forms..
thank you.
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Yes_Dad
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[quote]I have a question.. new to this.. my husband and I are on a verge of divorce.. his bio children live here that I have raised now they are teens and the bio mother came back 1 year ago .. anyways long story short.. I am on disabilty and he works and makes more money than me and he also collects support.. am I entitled for spousal support.. I called domestics they said fill out the forms..
thank you. [/quote]
Zazzy- You should start a new thread, but anyway, you don't give enough info, such as how long you were married..or did you bwcomw disabled during the marriage..etc..start a new thread with as much info as possible
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