Mamame
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Reged: 12/08/04
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Loc: Western New York
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I really wasn't sure where to post this but I thought this was as good a place as any. My ex's new wife is really just bugging me and I will feel so much better if I just get it all off my chest. I fiqured it would be better to post about it than respond to her e-mails which I am trying not to do. I have really tried to be nice to this woman but since the CS went up she has just really started stepping on my feet. And I know it is just best to ignore her and deal with the ex, it is really hard when she is just digging at my skin!! I must admit I have no idea what it would be like to come into a situation and be a step mom but I have also told her that I appreciate the care that she provides the kids when they are out of my care. She took this as a compliment(which is how I meant it) but she has since started talking badly about me to my children and teachimg her children to also say nasty things about me. I just feel so bad for my kids who are scared of both of them(dad and new wife) and now have to del with them trash talking me. I just keep telling the kids that they are mad and they dont mean the things they are sdaying and that they will calm down. BUT in all reality I dont think it will. We just filed a petition for modification of visitation and in there we did ask that they not discuss financial information with the kids and that the name calling stop. I hope that the judge will include this as it has become a real problem.
Thanks so much thats all for now, I feel so much better. I am really glad I found this site.
Mamame
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aussie928
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Reged: 10/29/04
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Loc: Dallas
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g'day luv. Sorry to hear of yur troubles. The judge can put this in a court order but I dont guarantee that will make the step mother stop. As to her e-mails, why dont you just block her name?
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Gecko
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If you're using Outlook, just sent her emails into the "delete" folder.
You can also block emails from her.
If worse comes to worse, file charges of harrassment.
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almostheaven
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Just about any email program will have something called block, rules, filter, or similar. You can set up a new block/rule/filter for her email address to delete it upon arrival.
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aussie928
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Loc: Dallas
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I would block rather then delete only so she will then understand that you arent going to play her games. If you just delete..she hs no idea you are doing this.
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Onyx
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Reged: 08/03/04
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Loc: Buffalo NY
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I would also do as the other posters said,.... BLOCK her emails. If she changes her email addresses as you can on AOL then you record the screen name(s) and THEN block them as they come in. You will have a pile of email addresses from their account, which can be traced back to them, in the case that you need to file charges. This pisses me off, I mean, how happy can this woman be, if she spends all of her time messing with you? There seems to be a little jealousy coming from her, otherwise, she wouldnt be bothered with you. If she calls you, you might want to remind her of this. That will surely make her back off.
Blessings, and good luck, Onyx
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BabyCakes
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Loc: Virginia
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My, my, my...blocking and deleting are good. I occasionally get threatening emails from my ex--and I save them. When we were going through the heat of the divorce he always managed to put his best foot forward and won the sympathy of most involved. But he forgets that email is a written format and can be saved (and therefore used against him). I always, ALWAYS send a copy/save a copy of what I send him so he can no longer misinterpret what I say in my emails to him--he has done so in the past. He of course isn't very intelligent...but I digress. Sorry.
As for your situation...I'll go out on a limb--if you save or print the emails (that doesn't mean you READ or RESPOND to them now) then that could help show the harrassment you're receiving. Not sure what to say about the name-calling...but good luck. My heart goes out to you--I may find myself in the stepmother role pretty soon and I won't be wasting my time trying to harrass the ex-wife. I have enough on my plate with my ex!!
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kkkkkkkkkk
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I am going through the same thing- please tell me, from your experience in court- what can I do?
I have had multiple issues with this ridculous little girl. We had custody altered to where she could not be around my son due to the violent fights her and my child's father would get into, even having him arrested while he was visiting with my son.
After court stated she couldnt be around my child, she gets pregnant- he married her in city hall when she was 6mos preganant on the day we were going to court for custody- to show he has a "family" and to say I was kicking his "wife" out of the house (at the advice of his scumbag attorney). I agreed to allow the visit for the sake of my son who was being tormented with guilt by his dad. Now its 2 yrs later, they had another child (this make 2 with her) and not only do I get verbally abused by him. He has her calling me saying horrible things about ME, My Family and she physically threatened me on my answering machine all while saying she is a better mother to my child than I.
What can I do? I want to stop the visits there completely cuz my son's schooling is effected, he feels torn between us. He loves his dad and feels his dad's new family means more so my child will do anything for his dad's approval. His dad knows this and manipulates it to no extent. I allow my son to make the decision, I dont want to keep him from his dad (my mom did that to me and I resented her) even though I know his father talks bad about me in front of my child and now so does his wife. My son loves his dad but doesn;t like her. What can I do? Can I go back to court and play this message without sounding like a jealous ex. i dont want HIM I havent in 8 years, but he tells her I am jealous of their relationship and she's young and naive and believes it. thats not my problem, my problem is the physical threats and insults I get from her. Is she allowed to do this? Will I urt my child even more by taking legal action (can I even take legal action)
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LAFather2
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Unfortunately, even though the USA does not subscribe to the doctrines below, the USA is implementing these procedures in our school systems nation wide.
As with all laws that take away our rights, they do a little bit here, little bit there and eventually, the right is taken away. History shows this. Not only century old history, but recent history.
Each generation gets weaker because of this and is one of the reasons that the government wants female led families since the female historically looks to the government for guidance and protection while a male is much more generally speaking, more independent and certainly not as malleable as the vast majority of females.
And, because of this, we are drugging our children and are beginning to teach homosexuality to not just high schoolers, not just middle schoolers, not just grade schoolers, not just kindergartners, but PRE-SCHOOLERS TOO!
We have the schools teaching our children to report their parents. We have the schools and DHHS stating that they know better than us. We have the Superintendents of practically every school district stating that parents do not have rights.
Just because we have not signed the "agreement" below, does not mean that we are not implementing it.
“Imagine if . . .”
Posted by: Peter Kamakawiwoole on November 10th, 2008
Tag(s): Convention on the Rights of the Child • Danger to Parental Rights • UNCRC • United Nations
The Reality of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child
Imagine an Air Force mom, serving her country on a month-long deployment, who learns that her daughter has been secretly removed by local authorities, claiming the child has been “abandoned.” Children begin mandatory sex-education at the age of four, regardless of their family’s opinions, beliefs, or convictions, and parents are imprisoned if their children fail to receive any of their mandatory vaccinations. Parents live in a state of constant supervision and suspicion.
Imagine if your national government had the audacity to appoint a “guardian” to monitor your child from birth, charged with the legal responsibility to evaluate your decisions as a parent and armed with the legal authority to “intervene, prevent or rectify” any violations of your child’s rights. Public and private schools alike are policed by the national government, and classes begin with singing about the principles of peace, tolerance, and the United Nations. Your child’s confidential medical records, stored in a nation-wide electronic register from birth until age twenty, can be accessed at any time, without your knowledge, by any physician, teacher, or government social worker in the nation.
Now stop imagining, because for parents in the 193 countries that have ratified the United Nations’ Convention on the Rights of the Child, each of these scenarios is true.
Constant Supervision and Suspicion
Since its adoption by the United Nations in 1989, the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) has become the most widely accepted international agreement in history, ratified by every nation of the world except for the United States and Somalia. All signatories pledge to protect children’s rights, foster their development, and uphold their best interests by re-writing their national laws to conform to the standards set forth in the treaty.
While all this may sound harmless and even commendable, the reality is that the Convention allows and even demands that national governments interfere in the decisions of individual families and parents. By invoking the “best interests of the child ,” policymakers and government agents have the authority to substitute their own decisions for those of the child or parent. In short, parents lose their rights to be parents, and become merely caregivers. The result, as parents across the globe are now discovering, is that the family is being steadily undermined, often with tragic and devastating results for the very children who are supposed to be protected.
The Need for Vigilance
Thankfully, the United States still remains the sole organized government of the world that has rejected the Convention on the Rights of the Child, because our elected leaders emphatically rejected the Convention’s incursions on American law and the American family. America believes that international committees and courts should have no authority in the affairs of her families, and that the right and responsibility of lawmaking should be wielded only by her own sons and daughters.
This emphatic resistance, however, must be more than simply a one-time stand, for without vigilance on the part of its citizens, America is unlikely to remain the last stalwart defender of parental rights. Nations across the globe are reaffirming their commitment to the Convention every day, and domestic scholars, activists, judges, and politicians continue to urge us to join them.
To challenge their cries, ParentalRights.org will be taking a closer look at countries who have been recently cited by the United Nations as “model-governments” in the battle for children’s rights. Beneath their shiny veneer of success are stories and movements that reveal the dangers taking shape beyond our borders. Americans everywhere need to be informed about the true nature of the international movement for “child rights.” In short, they need to hear the stories of real parents, in real countries, who are becoming the real casualties of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child.
Editor’s note: This begins a series of articles to be posted at the rate of one every two weeks.
18 Comments on “Imagine if . . .”These icons link to social bookmarking sites where readers can share and discover new web pages.
I am against the UN coming into anyone of our homes here in America. I want us to sign a petition against us going in with them.
Kari Richardson
Nov 10 at 12:53 pm
This information should scare the life into ALL parents and make them think about what ANY government claiming to help or protect them is doing. It should also make them think twice about who they vote into office! Unfortunately, I am more afraid it will do nothing because there are not enough brave people, let alone parents, who stand up for what they believe in anymore! God, PLEASE help us ALL!
Nathanael Lyles
Nov 10 at 12:53 pm
This is awful and scary at the same time. Looking forward to hearing more.
Robert & Theresa
Nov 10 at 12:54 pm
This is the kind of government intervention that Obama favors. We cannot betray our national sovereignty to the U.N.
Dan Wood
Nov 10 at 12:59 pm
If we as American’s were to adopt something like this I fear it would be the end of “a government for the people, by the people”. This is very scary for parents and especially for the American constitutional rights of “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness”. I could go on, but there’s no need. Everyone with a brain, and/or a kid, gets it.
Alice
Nov 10 at 1:03 pm
I am totaly against ANY outside influence on our children. Parents have a responibilty to their children and our Nation. The Bible foretold this. We should all BEWARE. On Guard. And above all PRAY.
Vickie
Nov 10 at 1:04 pm
We need a strategy. Bombarding us with bad news is not a solution. All it does is make concerned parents feel increasingly powerless. Along with the bad news, we need to know what we can do to prevent what is being presented to us as a foregone conclusion.
Yvette
Nov 10 at 1:14 pm
This is the kind of change that Obama supporters voted for. My guess is that most of them had no idea of the kind of change they just voted in. They voted for change just for the sake of change. I fear greatly for all of us sound minded parents. Lord help us who are in the right mind up hold our parental rights and continue to fight the battle.
Patrick Lindell
Nov 10 at 1:15 pm
With Obama’s belief system and scary “hitler” characteristics, it’s very important we stay in prayer against this kind of government, pray for officials and conviction against this in the hearts of our government leaders. Our children’s generation needs to understand WHERE they came from, HOW to keep our liberties.
Dawna Wood
Nov 10 at 1:15 pm
slowly, slowly, slowly it happens…parents rights are taken away when we stop fighting for our children and their future. We feel someone else will handle it. Now is the time to be proactive in all we believe. Now that we have a new president with new ideas this will likely happen. Stay focused and involved!
kim
Nov 10 at 1:16 pm
This cannot be allowed to become law in America. We, as a nation, need to wake-up to the pattern of our central government using “safety”, “security” and “protection” as justifications for impinging individual liberty and freedom in this country.
This UN scheme in unacceptable! We can take very good care of our children, thank you very much, without a goon squad breathing down our necks.
David
Nov 10 at 1:17 pm
Who is the U.N. to dictate to us what we can and cannot do with our kids? I’m proud to stand up with Somalia against the “Rights of the Child Act.” Who came up with this cockame’me bill anyhow? It allows the U.N. to come snooping into our homes while we have enough to do keeping the Child Protective Service out.
Zippy
Nov 10 at 1:17 pm
Jesus said “render to Ceasar what is Ceasar’s and to God what is God’s.” Our children are NOT Ceasar’s, they are GOD’S. Is there anything we can do to protect our children from indoctrination and the inevitable alienation this will cause since it is surely only a matter of time?
Becky
Nov 10 at 1:18 pm
I am totally FOR PARENTS running their own families…without any government intervention, especially foreign government intervention. A petition is fantastic, has one been started? There is a rumbling underground…parents are very dissatisfied with the school system and vaccine schedule…it’s caused many to become more informed and to realize that our government is our biggest enemy. Many are rallying to Restore the Republic. http://www.restoretherepublic.com
Katie Kieffer
Nov 10 at 1:23 pm
Because we as a people and a nation have to few “watchmen” standing to warn us against eivl lurking in the shadows or dancing on the doorstep, we now suffer. When the watchmen have shouted out warning signs we have sat idlely by for the past few generation. Are we now going to sit again or are we going to band together to and revolt for the just and biblical cause that we have been called to defend. I thank all who have been active and pray for more to come to the cause!!
Jordan Hulcy
Nov 10 at 1:38 pm
Because we as a people and a nation have to few “watchmen” standing to warn us against eivl lurking in the shadows or dancing on the doorstep, we now suffer. When the watchmen have shouted out warning signs we have sat idlely by for the past few generation. Are we now going to sit again or are we going to band together to and revolt for the just and biblical cause that we have been called to defend. I thank all who have been active and pray for more to come to the cause!!
Jordan Hulcy
Nov 10 at 1:38 pm
This is the end of times. We must stand together or alone, but we must stand in GOD’s power. We must be guided by HIS spirit. It takes total surrender to HIS ways of doing things. Total surrender to HIS love. Denying ourselves many things. Are we ready, are we willing , are we already doing this? Many of us have already given into this U.N. way by just not taking care of our children and going to work for more money, more things. Children have become the enemy, getting in the way, stopping us from doing this or that, or we shove them around and into daycares so we can do what we want. Is that what GOD wants. Do we really care about all this change? Are we all talk and no action. Are we being the change we want to see in this world, even if we are alone. GOD help me! GOD help us!
Seek first the Kingdom of heaven,GOD’s way of doing things…. Seek HIM while he may be found…Help us oh LORD , humble ourselves and really seek you and really be real, really be holy, really be pure, really hear what to do, as these days are growing more evil. Help us dear JESUS! Help us love YOU for real!!!!! In your name we pray…Amen
M. Sanders
Nov 10 at 1:40 pm
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http://www.parentalrights.org/blog/uncrc/%e2%80%9cimagine-if-%e2%80%9d?utm_source=ParentalRights.org+Newsletter&utm_campaign=bb631453e8-UNSurvey_intro_Nov_2008&utm_medium=email#more-99
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