Goodmom
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Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2015
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[quote] Our daughter is 2 and couldn't possibly be incurring $1000 a month in expenses nor do her outlined expenses even call for that much money. [/quote]
What an ignorant statement. If I had not been a SAHM when my kids were 2, it would have cost me over $800 a month to put one kid in childcare. It gets a little cheaper when they are 4. I only paid $769 a month when my youngest was 4. And that was just for her.
I wouldn't own a house if it wasn't for the kids. Rent in my area for a one bedroom is $800. Half of the remainder is $600 (the other half is for my other kid). So now, for one 2 year old, I have spent around $1,400 a month. And I haven't even gotten to the diapers, utilities (granted, electric isn't going to cost that much more. But gas will as I keep the house warmer with little ones). Oh, and there are the shoes that they need to have replaced 2-4 times a year depending on growth spurts and the clothes.
I would pretty much say that others have pegged you accurately.
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c_jane
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 04/06/07
Posts: 1755
Loc: In the Great State of Texas
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I WISH we could have an accounting. I am the NCP and *I* pay (according to my salary) $850/month. That SHOULD include all the health care premiums but Exhole gets 100% of that paid by his job. (A fact he *conveniently* FORGOT to mention to me for 17 months so he got an EXTRA $1400 scott-free on that. But I digress.)
Now, according to CS -- my son (13) should ALSO be supported by his *Dad* as the CP. So Ex- makes approximately 2/3's of what I make. Therefore he SHOULD be contributing another oh, $600 to DS's upkeep. Big Fat F*&^ing Chance!
It does NOT cost $1400+/month for DS. I live in the SAME neighborhood. Sure, Ex- has a house (3-bedroom); so do I. You can't find a 2-Bedroom here where we live. So saying Ex- has to pay $$$ for an extra bedroom is BS, plain & simple. Our standard of living is EXACTLY the same, except I'm not remarried. Ex- is remarried but SM only works part time, due to my supporting their family also.
DS is not in any extracurricular activities, band or sports. There is NO WAY they spend $1400+/month on DS. Or even $850/month. They have no savings account for him. No college fund. No nothing, but *I* support their standard of living.
Get used to it. Accept it. You are giving your Ex- tax-free money for the next 16 years to spend as she wishes. Consider yourself fortunate that you HAVE a good-paying job and you have the ability to support two families on it.
Because that is what CS is. Support for the other family -- not the child.
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gr8Dad
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 06/07/04
Posts: 30199
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Bitter much?
What is REALLY sickening is the way you get away with bytching and moaning about your child support and NO ONE says a word, but when a GUY comes on here and does it, they get hammered for even SUGGESTING that they are paying too much.
BTW, when I was NCP, I paid FAR more than you.
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Why give a "senior" discount, they have had plenty of time to raise the money...
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SamsDad
journeyman
Reged: 04/29/10
Posts: 79
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Wow, you ladies really need to find another "out". You are taking out your bitter angry aggression on a man who is just trying to make sure his baby girl is the one being taken care of and not his thief of an ex wife -yes thief -while I was deployed she slept with 2 other men, cleared my bank acct of $8000 and then sent me an email saying she didn't want to be married to "army" any more. You ladies have NO idea what has gone on here and for you to just bypass any remorse...you automatically bundle me up with your ex husbands or past experiences. GET OFF THE FORUMS because you are truly NO HELP, if your goal is to slander and belittle men with good intentions, who are great fathers, and hard working partners -remember that when you point the finger you have 3 pointing right back at you! Please dont respond to my posts if you have nothing of value to contribute.
and for -Greatmom- I have my daughter 50% of the time which means that if I can keep my household expenses for my daughter to under $1000 a month then so can she. She has 100% child care coverage through the state, pays NO health insurance (I kindly provide this for her still) and pays $500 a month in rent and has no intention of upgrading or owning right now - that is her choice. Please don't compare your situation to mine because you truly have no idea what you are talking about and sound quite ignorant ranting on and on about your mortgage and what not that has no application to my situation whatsoever.
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Goodmom
Pooh-Bah
Reged: 06/17/07
Posts: 2015
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[quote]and for -Greatmom- I have my daughter 50% of the time which means that if I can keep my household expenses for my daughter to under $1000 a month then so can she. [/quote]
Wasn't addressing your parenting time, what I addressed was your BS statement that a 2 year old child doesn't cost $1K a month.
Sounded ignorant? I wasn't the one here saying that a 2 year old doesn't cost $1K a month. You were. And I showed you just what an ignorant statement that was.
Oh, and I wasn't comparing your situation to mine. I was just pointing out that your statement that a 2 year old child doesn't cost $1K a month was BS. Now, if you had stated that YOUR 2 year old doesn't cost $1K a month, I probably would have said nothing.
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almostheaven
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Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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>>>>It seems as though you ladies have it out for men who just want justice in the midst of a frustrating situation.
Not at all. If you note, my post said nothing about your motivation. It addressed specifically that if you were the payor, it would boil down to if the kids were being neglected, cause that is about the only way you'd get an accounting. Had nothing to do with whether or not you may or may not deserve one, but how the court is going to look at it. And it went on to provide for if you were the payee. Cause if a payee is trying to provide one, it means they are trying to show that they do spend it on the child, which means they likely do just that and are dealing with an NCP who doesn't believe them, and by showing them, they're typically not going to get them to believe anyway.
And what is the frustrating situation? As I said, if you don't give enough, there's not much you can get back that may pertain.
>>>>>a little opinion in there...perfect response.
When others gave opinion though, you didn't like it because you didn't agree with their opinions?
>>>>>remember that no one likes to be scrutinized or stereotyped
Then don't post publicly, because that is exactly what happen on public boards. Has been since practically their invent.
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almostheaven
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 07/13/04
Posts: 10468
Loc: West Virginia
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>>>>>What an ignorant statement. If I had not been a SAHM when my kids were 2, it would have cost me over $800 a month to put one kid in childcare.
He stated "she receives as well as 100% coverage for daycare", so how do you spend $1K/mo. plus the mother's portion after factoring out daycare?
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Sherron
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Reged: 11/25/06
Posts: 20056
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"Oh, and I wasn't comparing your situation to mine. I was just pointing out that your statement that a 2 year old child doesn't cost $1K a month was BS. Now, if you had stated that YOUR 2 year old doesn't cost $1K a month, I probably would have said nothing. "
Whose 2-yr old do you think he was talking about lol?
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SamsDad
journeyman
Reged: 04/29/10
Posts: 79
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Almost heaven - I think you have some good pointers however, maybe I misunderstood your response. I felt as though your responses did not address what I was asking; therefor, it's not that I didn't like your response or the responses of others, it's that it carried no weight for what I was asking. Like I said, read the posts, don't read INTO them. What I was asking was simply whether or not accounting could be done for child support...not exactly pertaining to my situation but more like -if it was heard of- type of thing. You can understand how being bombarded with 4 women's interpretations of my integrity would put me on the edge a little.
Goodmom -you make no sense at all to be honest -you didn't show me anything other than how oblivious you are to the statements you make.
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1004SRS
Carpal \'Tunnel
Reged: 12/11/06
Posts: 5044
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Unless your kids are being neglected, I don't think you can get an accounting of how cs is spent.
Kids are expensive to raise.
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