DivorceCoach4U
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Hi, I am Scott Martin, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and I am curious about what your biggest challenge or frustration you're having with your divorce right now. Please share your thoughts and you will be amazed at what kinds of solutions may turn up.
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mastermesh
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I'm not getting divorced, but my sister was just kicked out of her apartment by my brother-in-law, and he's already said that his brother might be willing to pay for the divorce, if there is one... Biggest problem at the moment that I forsee is that they both took on a ton of debt through her credit cards... Unfortunately, my mother's name was also on the CC since she cosigned. Both my Sister and Bother-in-Law made unwritten agreements with my parents to pay back the debt after Mom and Dad took the debt on by transferring the debt to another lower interest credit card, but so far, neither my sister, nor brother-in-law has started paying my parents back anything... Many of the things were purchased for my brother-in-law since my sister was trying to "buy his love" so to speak - and many things that he did get were handed freely from him to his brother...and I suspect now that my brother-in-law has kicked my sister out of the house, he thinks the unwritten contract does not apply to him or anything... so my parents are really getting screwed in this deal. Unfortunately, my sister is still in love with the crazy jerk, so she won't even talk to a lawyer just to figure out what her rights are. I've told both my sister and parents that they need to talk to a lawyer, but they are all hesitant to do anything... What rights do they have? Is there any way they could get him to pay up something for his share of that debt, especially since many things were given away to his brother freely (a camera that was originally purchased for my sister was given to his brother, huge 30 gallon fish tanks were too, and a number of other items over the years...)
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DivorceCoach4U
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Your parents are on the hook for the debt since it is in their name on that credit card and there is no written agreement that states that they are to be reimbursed so my guess is that they wiil be stuck with it. I am not an attorney so it would be better to hire one provided that we are talking about a substantial sum of money. Investing a couple of hundred dollars for an hour of an attorney's time is worth it. Getting advice from friends who mean well is a deadend that will cost more in the long run.
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palmel1234
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My biggest frustration is an attorney who takes a long time to respond to things, i.e. takes a long time to files things in court, takes a long time to return phone calls and emails, or just never responds to your calls and emails.
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kathy002
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Great question! Here's my biggest frustration at the moment - I posted this in another folder, but since you're asking, here it is:
My husband of nearly 20 years abandoned my daughter and me for someone (someTHING?) he met on Facebook. He decided to give me everything - including his 401K account in full. The QDRO has been filed and signed, so that is not problem.
The question I have is this: Once the account is transferred to me, what are my options? I would like most to put it in a more stable place. Right now, the plan is administered by Fidelity. I have no idea what my ex signed up for, but the account continues to lose money. I would like to just put the money in a savings account or something like that - I am not a fan of stocks because I am not a gambler - I want to keep the money I have, even if it only earns 4%.
I am in Ohio, if that helps with an answer.
I appreciate your time and help!
Thank you,
Kathy
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jazmic
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My biggest frustration is my exhusband thinks that just picking up the kids is enough. He does not take them to the Dr. for any appointments, shot updates or stays at home sick with them. When I do try to get him to stay at home because of them being sick, it is always a fight about how more important his job is then mine. I do everything, and I mean everything. Yes he pays child support, yes he picks them up when he is suppose to, but that is it. He was a cheater and a liar in our relationship and has since moved on with the girl he cheated with. The kids love him and i will not take that away from them, but I don't ask anything from him except for of course child support since they are with me more. What really pisses me off is that he thinks just because he pays me, and he has time with them that that is enough. NO SORRY IT IS NOT. When school is in sessions he needs to be more invovled in school work, taking them to dr appts, going to get school supplies ect. It is always an argument. He is getting away scott free in my opinion. He robbed his family of a what could have been a good life because he couldn't keep it in his pants. Why should I take on all the burden of the responsiblity? I fill out paperwork, I schedule everything for the kids, I do their homework with them, I drive them around everywhere, I take them to the DR, I go to the parent teacher conferences, I find a babysitter for schoold when we don't have one or the school is out. He says his work is too busy for him to take off to do anything like that. Don't know what else to do. Am I wrong for feeling this way??????????????????????????
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kaycherroney
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My biggest frustration, is I'm stuck living with my soon to be exhusband, because of money/lease. We signed an 18 month lease, in NY, about 6 months ago, and now I'm stuck living with him until October of next year, because I cannot buy out my lease. The only reason we resigned the lease is for our daughter, but now he wants to move back to Indiana (for a girl in my opp but that's another story). I can't afford my rent on my own, and I'm worried that at the end of next year when he does move back, that my poor daughter is going to have her world ripped from under her. I think that I will have to move to a different school district, so she would lose her school, friends, father and her home!! I think he's being very selfish for doing this, although I don't want to live with him, I would hope that he would have stayed in the area so he would be able to see his daughter more often and not completely ruin her life as she knows it. I'm so confused and hurt by this, am I over reacting???? I just don't know what to do.....
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