fraidknots
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hello group,
I have been divorced for 7 years and involved in a stable happy relationship. My ex-wife, who has remarried, continuously harrases my friend. She has contacted her at work and verbaly threatened her, continuously e-mails her, and attempts to friend her on Facebook.
Now, besides the verbally threat, nothing else has happened, but it is constant and puts a strain on the relationship. We live in Massachusetts. I have contacted her attorney and asked for this to stop, but it continues. Is there any way to legally put an end to this? Is there any protective order the Courts can issue?
Any assistant will be apreciated.
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almostheaven
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Your friend needs to take the emails to the magistrate court, file for a PO against her, and make them aware of the threat over the phone.
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BeachBabeRN
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You can take some practical steps -- block her emails, lock down the FB page. In fact, if someone attempts to friend you, you can deny the request AND block that person from attempting again.
The contact at work can and should be stopped by whatever means available. However, take the easy steps also to have her be unable to contact your friend.
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nolonger
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Here in the north midwest, where it is still very "old school" and chauvenistic, there is nothing that can be done to prevent this behavior. In fact, I have received a couple RO's and even when they are violated, the police have told me, "unless he beats you bloody, there's nothing we can do for you".
Take Beach's advice - block her from everything - and tell your friend that you understand how petty yet frustrating this is, but give her the option to get out of the relationship. That way, she'll feel she has the ability to end her own frustration and it'll take the pressure off of you to have to do it.
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fraidknots
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Thank you all, I really apreciated all you input. I just read that Massachusetts recently passed a anti-harrassment law that i may be able to use, but for the time being, your practicle advice will hopefully help.
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connie60
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I went through the same thing with my first divorce. I was afraid all of the time, as x and his new gf often called me and threatened me, even at work. Back in those days, there was not a lot i could do.
Now, its a different story. Make copies of any e-mails ECT. If she is calling, you can buy a tape recorder ad tape all conversations with her. You can also get the phone company involved if you have a restraining order.
I would nip this in the bud right now, and stop the harrasment. I hope the law will help you with this, as i havent had any luck with them.
Like others said, change everything on your computer, phone # if need be. I know its a pain, but you may have to almost dissapear.
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almostheaven
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Not all states permit one-party recording of conversations. The OP may be in a two-party state, where they have to get her permission to record calls.
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almostheaven
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It is a crime to record any conversation, whether oral or wire, without the consent of all parties in Massachusetts. The penalty for violating the law is a fine of up to $10,000 and a jail sentence of up to five years. Mass. Ann. Laws ch. 272 , § 99.
[censored]://[censored].rcfp.org/taping/states/massachusetts.html
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