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th4re3lest
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Pregnant?
      #699086 - 10/19/10 03:04 AM

So my soon to be ex-wife and i have been separated, not legally for a year. She has been seeing a man and I have been just sticking to myself during most of that year, well recently I have been involved heavily with a girl and have had unprotected sex with her several time. She is getting symptoms of a pregnancy and am worried. Me for one I am ok with being a father but the legal system doesn't think so. Me and the soon to be ex-wife are currently filing for a divorce but I am waiting on her to send me some forms i mailed to her so that she can sign em. Is there any way of not getting in trouble with this situation? Oh and i am pretty sure being in the military doesn't help.

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Re: Pregnant? [Re: th4re3lest]
      #699093 - 10/19/10 07:35 AM

Why doesn't the legal system think you can be a father ?

Buy a pregnancy test.


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Re: Pregnant? [Re: finz]
      #699103 - 10/19/10 08:17 AM

Dude.....you've had some pretty flawed thought processes.

WHY would you have unprotected sex with anyone? It has no bearing on your impending divorce at all. But now you've got a possibly pregnant girlfriend?

Has she taken a pregnancy test at all? Why would the legal system think that you can't be a father?

The military really won't care either but you can get dependent benefits IF there is a child and IF it's yours. The one thing that being in the military accomplishes is being able to pay your child support if this is your child.

I'd insist on a DNA also.


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Re: Pregnant? [Re: BeachBabeRN]
      #699322 - 10/19/10 09:58 PM

Yeah i know my thought process is flawed but I just got lost in the moment and let my emotions take over. I'd been separated (not legally) from my wife and we both stopped feeling for each other back in October of 2009 so I stayed "alone" for a year and happened to meet someone new, sure it's an immature thing to do I understand that. I have read that i can get charged with article 134 and could lose pay and could get a dishonorable discharge with the possibility of 1 year confinement, what i say to that is WTF.

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Re: Pregnant? [Re: th4re3lest]
      #699336 - 10/19/10 10:46 PM

Military doesn't give a damn unless the person happens to be higher ranking than you AND in your chain of command.

Your ex could make life ugly but it's not really going to amount to anything.

File for divorce if you haven't done so -- hope that she doesn't find out your GF is pregnant.

Are you worried about your military career? Doing the right thing? Getting divorced?

I'm not sure what you're asking.


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Re: Pregnant? [Re: BeachBabeRN]
      #699342 - 10/19/10 10:52 PM

I'm not worried about a military career, i don't plan on staying in, I have a little over a year and a half left. I am in the process of getting the divorce, waiting on my soon to be ex-wife to sign papers and mail them back. Doing the right thing, not exactly it's all these laws that make [censored] difficult.

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Re: Pregnant? [Re: th4re3lest]
      #699386 - 10/20/10 08:34 AM

No, it's not the laws that make life difficult, it's your own actions that make life difficult.

If everything is proceeding along smoothly, I'm not sure what your question is.


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